Heyo~! First post! So let's get right to it~~
Meet Paul Gomille. He's 17 and like the many thousands of teen-aged males out there he loves video games, and at times, enjoys school; however, he did something on last month so 'terrible' that he got suspended for it. Wait for it...
He wrote a letter.
That's it? You might ask?
Nope. He wrote a letter to all the females in the world and read it aloud to his classmates. The letter is posted below, please take a few minutes to read what this student wrote.
Paul Gomille's letter:
Could I please have your attention for a few moments? I guarantee you won’t regret listening to what I have to say. You definitely won’t regret hearing this in your life time, especially from a man of dignity. It’s an idea that I have held close to my heart even before the kilt controversy arose in the media. This message is not meant to address the kilt controversy directly by any means, but rather, this message is a general and all-encompassing statement. It is a message about the qualities that really matter in a woman, and what really makes a woman attractive. Although this speech has some relevance to the way women dress and present themselves nowadays, the message in this speech goes far beyond one’s preferences, or feelings of pressure, as it relates to the way they dress, and it goes far beyond any concept of modernity. It strikes at the very core of humanity itself, in an attempt to make a revelation of truth apparent to all of you, with awe inspiring certainty. If you read this, and receive anything less than a feeling of absolution from it, then I have committed a grave sin, a sin against myself and a sin against all of you.
The people this message concerns are the young women of this school, and of the world. In particular, it concerns the silent ones, the intelligent ones, the ones that don’t talk about people behind their backs, the ones that guys don’t flock to in droves, the ones that don’t dress in revealing clothing, the ones who would love to be in love, and the ones that are continually disappointed in their appearance because the only thing they have to compare themselves to are the women that have been put on pedestals by our society. This message also concerns those of you who may consider yourselves the so called “opposite” to the demographic I just described. The ones who do dress in revealing clothing, and the ones who try to fit in with the crowd.
You don’t need to dress or act a certain way to fit in, to feel attractive, or to BE attractive. You’re all far more attractive than you realize. All of you. But that’s not to say that you should all dress in revealing clothing. No, not at all. Sure, a girl who dresses that way might turn a few heads, and get some compliments. But real attractiveness doesn’t come from wearing the latest fashion, and it doesn’t come from being scantily clad in public, or putting on make-up, or having a pretty face, or a nice body. No. Real attractiveness comes from having a certain dignity. It comes from having class. It comes from being true to yourself, being yourself, and being comfortable in your own skin. This message is for all young women within the sound of my voice and beyond. You’re all beautiful. You all have inner beauty AND outer beauty.
Wait! There's the other side to the coin! >3
Meet Heather Mallick, a columnist at a popular newspaper company. She 100% disagrees with Paul because, well, I'm sure you could understand why from the post she posted on her blog, shortly after reading Paul's letter.
Heather Mallick's Response:
There’s a kind of man universally unpopular with women. He is Controlling Man. Just say “he’s kind of controlling” to your women friends and they hiss and draw back as if they’d been sprayed with lemon juice.
From whence do controlling men come? I always wondered and now I know. Paul Gomille, a 17-year-old student at Archbishop Denis O’Connor Catholic High, wrote a message to the girls and women at his school, a declaration that he claimed “strikes at the very core of humanity itself, in an attempt to make a revelation of truth apparent to all of you, with awe inspiring certainty.”
Really, Martin Luther could take lessons from this guy. Who taught him this nonsense?
This is a school with a trustee who recently complained that female students were wearing their uniform skirts too short, a news story that earned me much emailed agreement from creepy middle-aged men who ride the subway in search of thighs to deplore. So Principal Donna Modeste was initially open to a nice speech about inner, as opposed to outer, beauty.
But some bits were troubling. Modeste told him to skip the section where he appears to target girls he dislikes by praising the ones who win his approval: “the silent ones, the intelligent ones, the ones that don’t talk about people behind their backs, the ones that guys don’t flock to in droves, the ones that don’t dress in revealing clothing (bold mine). . . ”
Amazingly, she was said to be okay with this little SlutWalk Starter in Miniature sentence: “Attractiveness doesn’t come from wearing the latest fashion, and it doesn’t come from being scantily clad in public, or putting on makeup, or having a pretty face, or a nice body. No. Real attractiveness comes from having a certain dignity.”
In the event, Gomille refused to obey Modeste, passed out what sounded like “Dress Down to Win Me as a Boyfriend” in the cafeteria and was suspended for two days because — and this is what I admire about the Catholic system — they don’t worry about popularity. Students will obey. High praise to Modeste.
Gomille, dressed in dark pants, a grey hoodie and navy jacket, dresses like all teenage boys, nondescriptly. In his Star photo against a grey Ajax sky, he looks like a disembodied head. He seems perfectly pleasant. At 17, I would have gone out with him, right up till he told me my dress was too revealing, at which point I would have run away, as girls will, and this well-intentioned young man will learn that.
Gomille’s older sister, Alexandra, says he is quiet, enjoys video games and as far as she knows has no girlfriend. But suddenly he’s the editor of Vogue?
Females from age 2 to 92 speak as one: We do not care to hear male opinions on our clothes unless it’s “You look fabulous in that. Radiant. Wow.” When we ask you if the sweater works with the scarf, the word we want to hear is “yes.” And then, frankly, we’ll change the sweater. If he’s a Controlling Man who says it’s too tight or uses the phrases “no wife of mine will . . . ” we detach.
Women often shop for men, and I shudder to think how men would dress if they didn’t. Most men can’t even enter shops to buy their own pants. So why judge women’s clothing?
“It’s the great misogynist trick,” says Linda Grant, whose 2009 book The Thoughtful Dresser analyzes women’s love of fashion. “I won’t take it from those men who judge and condemn women for the various failures of our appearance while simultaneously barking that only feeble shallow creatures such as women would pay any attention to how they look.”
Gomille may be 17 but he sounds 102 and we hear from males like him all our lives. They’re correctors, judges, buzzkills. Mothers sound like this too, for different reasons. “You’re going out in that, Cyndi Ahmadinejad? Over my dead body!”
There’s a worrying prescriptiveness in Gomille’s unasked-for definition of how his fellow students should dress. We women are half the world. In the workplace men and women stand side-by-side and are gradually learning how to accommodate each other’s differences.
Keep your advice to yourself, preacher. Trust me, girls like that in a boy.
Well those are the two sides of the coin guys! I leave it up to discussion/voicing your take on this topic. I look forward to reading your opinion on this! Take cares~
P.S. If you also want to comment on what you thought of the first post. What you liked/dislike and what you think I can improve :D Thank you very much! *bows*