I am not saying that for one second that you should do the same. I am speaking from personal experience though, and what we are told by society.
I'm not a fist-fighter, never fought someone like that in my life, but if there is one grey area worth fighting for, it's love.
Unlike many, I do not believe that you should fight for the person you love if they are with someone else. This may mean that you are pushed to the side, then that is an unfair, and sad fact, but I do not believe that it is worth it. I am not cruelly slandering the person who said it to me, who was the person I liked, but the fact is, the internet is a different domain when it comes to affairs of the heart, than face-to-face relationships, and I shall proudly say this out loud!
If that person is to truly be with you, then it'll happen, and that does not mean sending hate-mail to the girl who he is going out with, because that makes you less attractive!
It may hurt, but time is a strange entity when it comes to peoples' feelings!
For me, as ever, it was not the fact that he could not make up his mind, oh no, it's that the person in question led me up the garden path to his relationship status in the first place, and making it seem like I'm side orders, not the main meal, if you know what I mean!
I'm not having that, and why should I at the end of the day as a self-respecting, independent young women, which he hailed in the first place! He cannot blame me for not fighting for him, because that is just tooting your own horn there my lad! If he was worth fighting for, then I wouldn't have found my self backing off, and he would have just told me in the first place, and that is the right justification! You don't string me along! It's unfair on you and me, because I'll get you when I find out; and maybe that's part of 'the fun' when being young and your serial relationships, but it's not all fun and games for the victims is it?
I'm just saying it like it is, because that is a serious error!
Now, I've 'forgiven' but it was a messy business because he was so lapse, that he didn't know that I knew. The bliss of fraudulent males who can't even lie well, I assume. :D
Good day!
