Hello, Moka.
I am sort of facing a "What should I do?" issue and I want your opinion on it.
Dear Moka,
There is this person in my school, one whom I do not like at all but I could possibly help him in a way? I don't know. Long story short, there is this girl that he likes, and she doesn't like him that much, but has lately been being nicer to him.
And I heard from the local gossip (whom I strongly dislike) that the girl (who is currently in a relationship)'s boyfriend has been cheating on her. Now I don't like to get in peoples' business but I was wondering if I should let her know what I heard. Now I really hate gossip, and I've been in situations before where it has caused someone to try and fight me, but what if I sort of deflect the attention from me (because I know how this works) and to the person who said it, then would I be doing a good thing?
I'm really confused about this whole thing, I really want to stay out of it, but at the same time I don't like seeing things go wrong and not say anything.
Signed,
Speeding Bullet.
Dear Speeding Bullet,
I understand exactly what you're talking about. I know that you would like to help these people out, and that's a good thing. The girl. She needs to know about what is going around regarding her boyfriend. Leaving her out of the know about such a serious possibility would be cruel. If you care about this girl whatsoever, you should tell her. It may cause problems, though. Be aware of the fact that she will likely think you're lying (unless, of course, you're close enough to her so that she trusts your opinion), so, if you decide to tell her, do not be shocked if she gets upset and angry and denies everything. Here’s a tip, though: Gather more information first. Don’t tell her anything without knowing things such as who the other girl might be, what exactly they have done, etc. Details that will be important when and if she confronts her boyfriend.
It's a tough decision, I know. Being the "man" and telling her the truth. You may risk ending her relationship with a non-cheating boyfriend, or you could save her from further hurt and pain. She could end up thanking you for telling her.
However, if you decide to not tell her directly, find somebody that you know she knows well enough, and have them break the bad news to her.
As for the boy that you first mentioned, I would help him purely out of the kindness of your heart. You may not like this guy very much, but a little kindness goes a long way. If he knows that she has a boyfriend, then all he can really do is just wait until they split up before he (gently and suttly) makes his move. Picks her up off of her feet, dries her tears, and makes her happy once more.
If you have anything else you would like to know, just PM me and we can continue this privately~ Thanks for submitting!
-Moka
