Nana is back in school after her very restful and procrastinated break. It just sucks coming back to school. Waking up in the mornings, taking the bus. Nana no like.
Nana remembered what she was going to talk about last post.
During break, the topic of intimacy came up among her friends. Can't remember what started it, though. But here are Nana's thoughts.
For the most part as is with most of society, intimacy is equated with boyfriend/girlfriend, sex, love. What is usually neglected is friends and family. Intimacy, to Nana, is an amazing closeness. To be so comfortable with someone that you can not only tell them anything without much embarrassment, but also be able to lean on them when no one else is around. So a very close best friend, or sibling; that is an intimate relationship.
But, then again, what does it mean to trust someone on that level? More over, how does one get there? There are no real answers to these questions. If there were, life would be simple and things like divorce would never happen. Some times there are no real clues that tell us that we trust someone.
Nana has known her most intimate friend since high school. There are hardly and secrets and there rarely is a time when the two aren't together. It just happened one day, when Nana realized just how close they were. It wasn't any one thing. It was just this strange feeling Nana got while the two of them sat quietly on her friends back lawn. Nothing was said, nor was there any real reason for being there. But the comfort both of them felt was very strong. They say things like, "I love you" and "You are very dear to me", but the two of them aren't "going out" or in a "relationship" but they are that close, or maybe even closer.
Things like words get misinterpreted, making it possible for people to misunderstand what it means to be intimate. Nana used to let it get to her when people misunderstood her relationship with her friend, but now she really doesn't care. Now the two of then flirt like crazy and "make out" just to annoy and dirty the views of people who don't try to understand. Then later when our significant other comes around, throw those people for a loop. We are taken, yet somehow we can trust each other enough to know we aren't ever going to be serious.
Maybe someday people will understand. Nana will be waiting.
