Oh boy. Oh boy. Literally.
I'd write a bigass rant, but tl;dr: gender identity is weird and I have no clue what to do about it or how to even... explore further. (Add in, family is really bad about gender related matters, so I can't bring it up to them).
Okay I have ranted enough. I'll be back when I can - work kind of drains me a lot and I need to get better at resting lol.
~ Orion.