Manga Anime Romance
Anime and Manga romance is well liked by the girls who read it. It can make your heart beat faster, loss of breath, excitement, overheating and plenty of other things. But, what we do not realize is that it is completely and utter pushing the idea of real romance out of the picture.
Being an otaku for 11 years now I have read a good majority of romance manga and watched plenty of series that demonstrate this 'extreme romance'. My idea of romance has truly been warped because of it. While I was a teenager I carefully shaped my expectations and dream of my future man, husband, and love based on what I read and watched. Perhaps if I had more common sense of the real world and someone educating me on true love this may not of happened. Although, not all of us gets that sort of teaching or example in life. Therefore I am speaking to those of us who are similar.
So, my dream has been shaped from the courages, calm cool and collected, strong Terry Bogard from Fatal Fury to the maturing and respectable Rick Hunter that knows what girl he desperately wants in the end. The reality I found in the long run is people like them don't exist because...They are not real people. I started thinking about this today trying to figure out why such a phenomenon happens to girls who read this kind of romance. Here is what I came up with so far.
When we read these romance stories the male heroine comes rushing to the girl's rescue, sometimes too late, but in general they make it if they love them. Also, if they are bad boys or rude they eventually soften up or make an exception for the female character. From the standpoint that most of this isn't realistic what do we know about who writes these romance stories? How about the fact that most of the authors are women! Yes, women know what they like when it comes to romance and our desires, fantasies, and dream boats. These men can come alive in this genre of entertainment! Therefore, men like these don't exist and do not surface very often in the world you and I are living in from day to day.
Most men today don't like romance stories. Ever wonder why? Because guys are not that romantic! Also, a lot of the stuff done in romance stories doesn't happen successfully in the real world. It pretty much turns out corny rather than romantic. That is why the 'extreme romance' is better kept in the stories we read rather than in our dreams and expectations in men.
Believing this romance is real will only set you up for disappointment. If you are disappointed now it will be easier to get over it than when you are married and have children wondering why it isn't so. When you get to that point remember romance is subtle and sweet. If you are not looking for it you will not see it or experience it. Romance is in the eye of the beholder.
Sincerely,
Rae
