I honestly don't understand why people say they don't like kids. It's just stereotyping to think they all suck when often it's just a case of one or two misbehaving, and even then, that doesn't mean they're like that all the time.
I'm the oldest of five siblings and since we're spaced apart fairly well, I grew up with little ones around and I both enjoyed and disliked it. I got to see both sides of them being fun and those moments that drove our parents a little batty. :p
Yes, it maybe something ordinary for you but there are some people who would never do such a thing for a friend like you did and still do, after all this years. You are a good friend and good friends are hard to find so I'm happy that your friend has someone like you to help him through all those years and all the ones to come.
It was truly so nice and sweet of you to help your friend who's unfortunately disabled and his family to have a moment of fun and rest. Truly sweet of you.
That may be, and I can see how that looks to someone who just learned of the situation, but to me it's just normal. I mean, I've known the guy for eleven years. I've watched him go from ambulatory to wheelchair-bound, from steroid-induced chubbiness (steroids helped slow the deterioration process, but the side-effect was weight) to steroid-free, slimmer, healthier, and happier, from being worried he was going to die before he got to high school to making it to what would have been his third year of college.
And I was only friends with him because I knew him both at school and at church. If it had just been one or the other, I'm not certain our interests would have ever aligned.
But we are friends, and so hanging out with him now and again is just the same to me as hanging out with any other of my friends, except that what we can do is limited to visual media for the most part. That it allows things to be done around his house uninterrupted is a small bonus. So yeah, from one angle I know that it was a bit of a big thing, but to me it was just as if I had asked a few friends over to help move out my piano.
Which I did. And we moved it in pieces. But I can't find the post where I shared all the pictures.....
I think the paperwork would mean nothing to me in the end, because I'll know I'm saving a life.
And yeah yeah, no labor pain. But you know what, that's part of the unique experience of being a mother. I just might not be able to experience it myself. So even though one side of me is going 'hell yes', the other is a little gloomy. Hahaha. I'm strange. =P
I'll admit for a while I didn't really like the idea of having kids, but after getting a little older I think I've decided that I want at least one or two. Except now that I've found out about my blood clotting disorder, having my own children probably isn't the best idea if I want to have a 100% chance of survival for both myself and the baby.
My boyfriend really wants kids. But when he found out about my little dilemma, he decided that maybe adopting wouldn't be such a bad idea. And that sounds like a pretty good idea to me. Sure, maybe deep down I'm a little sad about not being able to have my own children, but in the long run I'm saving the lives of some who otherwise wouldn't have a life, much less a chance of survival.
And who knows. By the time I want kids, medicine and technology may be so much more advanced that I may be able to have my own children without worrying about death. I think I'd still end up adopting at least one child though even if I could have my own.
And you're totally right about cruelty not being a new thing. Sometimes I'll wonder if the world's only seemingly becoming more cruel because we're more aware (through media coverage) or if society does warp/twist itself further as the years go by. Thoughts?
*uses Morphy as a shield towards the big scary world outside* :3
This world is way too cruel for me to embrace the idea of putting another life in its hands.
The world has always been cruel and will always be cruel. But you're capable of shielding that cruelty from them until they are old enough to handle it.
I mean, I come from a poor family. We're not destitute, but we're definitely lower lower-middle class. But I didn't know we were poor until I was about fifteen or so. And then I just accepted it because I saw nothing wrong with it and being poor hadn't really made my life all that hard, as far as I remember.
I think what you mean, though, is that you're afraid to fail them. But the only way to never fail is to never try.
I'll admit to disliking some kids, ie the ones that parents haven't brought up [period], but in general they're not bad. At the very least not in the age bracket you're referring to.
And as for having kids myself: No. This world is way too cruel for me to embrace the idea of putting another life in its hands :-/
Gotta say Alla, I truly loved what you said. And just as anyone has stated here, it is not very often we hear a guy talking about how he loves kids and such so naturally as you do.
Lil'childrean are so cuddly and adorable, playing with them is my all time favourite thing, we get so tired afterwards but so happy at the same time.
You really are a genuine good person, Allamorph. It was truly so nice and sweet of you to help your friend who's unfortunately disabled and his family to have a moment of fun and rest. Truly sweet of you.
Hope your suburn heals fast.
Last edited by ShadowLight at 5:19:06 AM EDT on June 7, 2009.
Children are some of the greatest things to exist on the face of the Earth. Cute, cuddly, full of energy and naturally loving. Very few things are fake with them and they will let you know that the time you spend with them is special. X3
Some people are just made to be parents; I think it's pretty cool you're one of them.
Dr. Mama Cat. (Otaku Eternal) | Posted 06/06/09 | Reply
If I ever marry, my counterpart must want children as well. I can't imagine being married and not being a father. And all power to women who want to work and want careers and whatever that really means (since I'm not even sure what having a career means for myself; I just want to work somewhere that gives me work to do and pays me to do it because that's what work is!), and I don't intend to pigeonhole someone as a stay-at-home mother and never allow them their own aspirations ever again, but I also think the mother figure is an inseparable part of the process and needs to be around the child even more than the father does. And in that regard, I feel the child's needs come before the father's or the mother's.
Okay, I'll admit that I... HUGGED THE DAMN PLUSHIE! The last sentence is really the most important thing. If only more people would realize that if you're not taking care of your own needs, you will struggle to be there for your own kids. There will be times when you'll have to give up stuff for them, but well, I think you get what I'm trying to say.
Nathan
Good Old Reliable | Posted 06/10/09 | Reply
I honestly don't understand why people say they don't like kids. It's just stereotyping to think they all suck when often it's just a case of one or two misbehaving, and even then, that doesn't mean they're like that all the time.
I'm the oldest of five siblings and since we're spaced apart fairly well, I grew up with little ones around and I both enjoyed and disliked it. I got to see both sides of them being fun and those moments that drove our parents a little batty. :p
So yes, bottom line, kids are great.
ShadowLight
Otaku Eternal | Posted 06/09/09 | Reply
@Allamorph:
There should be more people like you then, Alla. :)
The crazy bubbly shadow
Allamorph
Spiritus Memorae (Otaku Eternal) | Posted 06/08/09 | Reply
@ShadowLight:
Oh, I know what you're saying. That's just how I do things. =)
ShadowLight
Otaku Eternal | Posted 06/08/09 | Reply
@Allamorph:
Yes, it maybe something ordinary for you but there are some people who would never do such a thing for a friend like you did and still do, after all this years. You are a good friend and good friends are hard to find so I'm happy that your friend has someone like you to help him through all those years and all the ones to come.
The crazy bubbly shadow
Allamorph
Spiritus Memorae (Otaku Eternal) | Posted 06/08/09 | Reply
@ShadowLight:
It was truly so nice and sweet of you to help your friend who's unfortunately disabled and his family to have a moment of fun and rest. Truly sweet of you.
That may be, and I can see how that looks to someone who just learned of the situation, but to me it's just normal. I mean, I've known the guy for eleven years. I've watched him go from ambulatory to wheelchair-bound, from steroid-induced chubbiness (steroids helped slow the deterioration process, but the side-effect was weight) to steroid-free, slimmer, healthier, and happier, from being worried he was going to die before he got to high school to making it to what would have been his third year of college.
And I was only friends with him because I knew him both at school and at church. If it had just been one or the other, I'm not certain our interests would have ever aligned.
But we are friends, and so hanging out with him now and again is just the same to me as hanging out with any other of my friends, except that what we can do is limited to visual media for the most part. That it allows things to be done around his house uninterrupted is a small bonus. So yeah, from one angle I know that it was a bit of a big thing, but to me it was just as if I had asked a few friends over to help move out my piano.
Which I did. And we moved it in pieces. But I can't find the post where I shared all the pictures.....
Indi
Dr. Mama Cat. (Otaku Eternal) | Posted 06/07/09 | Reply
@Allamorph:
¬_¬
*boxes your ears*
~Crystia
Kimmeh
The Beautiful German | Posted 06/07/09 | Reply
@Allamorph:
I think the paperwork would mean nothing to me in the end, because I'll know I'm saving a life.
And yeah yeah, no labor pain. But you know what, that's part of the unique experience of being a mother. I just might not be able to experience it myself. So even though one side of me is going 'hell yes', the other is a little gloomy. Hahaha. I'm strange. =P
"This is Schweinsteiger fashion. ZIS IZ FASHUNN."
Allamorph
Spiritus Memorae (Otaku Eternal) | Posted 06/07/09 | Reply
@Kimmeh:
Hey, adopted kids are kids that aren't in the foster home system any longer. Just be prepared for a ridiculous amount of paperwork.
Also adopting means you don't have to go through labor....*shot*
Kimmeh
The Beautiful German | Posted 06/07/09 | Reply
I'll admit for a while I didn't really like the idea of having kids, but after getting a little older I think I've decided that I want at least one or two. Except now that I've found out about my blood clotting disorder, having my own children probably isn't the best idea if I want to have a 100% chance of survival for both myself and the baby.
My boyfriend really wants kids. But when he found out about my little dilemma, he decided that maybe adopting wouldn't be such a bad idea. And that sounds like a pretty good idea to me. Sure, maybe deep down I'm a little sad about not being able to have my own children, but in the long run I'm saving the lives of some who otherwise wouldn't have a life, much less a chance of survival.
And who knows. By the time I want kids, medicine and technology may be so much more advanced that I may be able to have my own children without worrying about death. I think I'd still end up adopting at least one child though even if I could have my own.
"This is Schweinsteiger fashion. ZIS IZ FASHUNN."
Mimmi
Otaku Eternal | Posted 06/07/09 | Reply
"...you're afraid to fail them."
That sums it up very accurately, mhm.
And you're totally right about cruelty not being a new thing. Sometimes I'll wonder if the world's only seemingly becoming more cruel because we're more aware (through media coverage) or if society does warp/twist itself further as the years go by. Thoughts?
*uses Morphy as a shield towards the big scary world outside* :3
Allamorph
Spiritus Memorae (Otaku Eternal) | Posted 06/07/09 | Reply
@Mimmi:
This world is way too cruel for me to embrace the idea of putting another life in its hands.
The world has always been cruel and will always be cruel. But you're capable of shielding that cruelty from them until they are old enough to handle it.
I mean, I come from a poor family. We're not destitute, but we're definitely lower lower-middle class. But I didn't know we were poor until I was about fifteen or so. And then I just accepted it because I saw nothing wrong with it and being poor hadn't really made my life all that hard, as far as I remember.
I think what you mean, though, is that you're afraid to fail them. But the only way to never fail is to never try.
Allamorph
Spiritus Memorae (Otaku Eternal) | Posted 06/07/09 | Reply
@Indi:
Didn't I tell you this a while ago? Girls like hugging things. You can't escape that no matter how much you try.
Emo kid.
Mimmi
Otaku Eternal | Posted 06/07/09 | Reply
I'll admit to disliking some kids, ie the ones that parents haven't brought up [period], but in general they're not bad. At the very least not in the age bracket you're referring to.
And as for having kids myself: No. This world is way too cruel for me to embrace the idea of putting another life in its hands :-/
You'll make an awesome dad, though :P
ShadowLight
Otaku Eternal | Posted 06/07/09 | Reply
Gotta say Alla, I truly loved what you said. And just as anyone has stated here, it is not very often we hear a guy talking about how he loves kids and such so naturally as you do.
Lil'childrean are so cuddly and adorable, playing with them is my all time favourite thing, we get so tired afterwards but so happy at the same time.
You really are a genuine good person, Allamorph. It was truly so nice and sweet of you to help your friend who's unfortunately disabled and his family to have a moment of fun and rest. Truly sweet of you.
Hope your suburn heals fast.
Last edited by ShadowLight at 5:19:06 AM EDT on June 7, 2009.
The crazy bubbly shadow
Nehszriah
Hits Self With Axe (Otaku Eternal) | Posted 06/06/09 | Reply
Children are some of the greatest things to exist on the face of the Earth. Cute, cuddly, full of energy and naturally loving. Very few things are fake with them and they will let you know that the time you spend with them is special. X3
Some people are just made to be parents; I think it's pretty cool you're one of them.
Be true, be you and of course, be otaku.
Indi
Dr. Mama Cat. (Otaku Eternal) | Posted 06/06/09 | Reply
If I ever marry, my counterpart must want children as well. I can't imagine being married and not being a father. And all power to women who want to work and want careers and whatever that really means (since I'm not even sure what having a career means for myself; I just want to work somewhere that gives me work to do and pays me to do it because that's what work is!), and I don't intend to pigeonhole someone as a stay-at-home mother and never allow them their own aspirations ever again, but I also think the mother figure is an inseparable part of the process and needs to be around the child even more than the father does. And in that regard, I feel the child's needs come before the father's or the mother's.
Okay, I'll admit that I... HUGGED THE DAMN PLUSHIE! The last sentence is really the most important thing. If only more people would realize that if you're not taking care of your own needs, you will struggle to be there for your own kids. There will be times when you'll have to give up stuff for them, but well, I think you get what I'm trying to say.
~Crystia