Dear Moka,
Hi. Im having some personal problems with friends. You see, all three of my close friends ended up in the same class. Except for me. I didn't have a problem with it, until they started becoming friends with this other girl (Which i will refer to as "S").
My close friend sits with S, and they have become friends. like, best friends. I didn't really care, since i was friends with S since elementary, but it seems like shes stealing my close friend away from me. They told me im overreacting, and i believed her, until today.
I ran up to my friend this morning, but she didn't say a word to me. Not even a "Hi". Then S walks up to her and my friend starts talking to her, with a smile and everything, ignoring me when i try to say something. I admit that I'm a yandere, so of course i get jealous and storm off. My friend then starts saying that im overreacting again and that i should get over it, then leaves for class.
I haven't talked to her, for the whole day, and I feel really neglected. I also kind of avoided her because im not good with feelings and i cry really really easily.
I feel like she hates me now, and that shes replacing me with S. I'm in a different class from all of them, so its not helping, either.
What should I do?
From,
Overly Attached Yandere
Dear Overly Attached Yandere,
I can TOTALLY relate to how you feel right now. The exact thing has been happening to me for a couple of months now. Just recently my used-to-be BFF just suddenly turned on me for who knows what reason? I dunno, and I don't think I ever will.
I would have to say that...if you have any classes with S or you have any times where you can see her, then I would actually try and become friends with S. Assuming that you like her, that is. I can see why you would be jealous since, after all, your closest friend has started ignoring you for her. Maybe it's because you two have become so strained since they began talking, and she feels like you don't want to be friends?
I'm also assuming that you're in high school, right? I want you to remember this: People change in high school. Believe me when I say that by the time you graduate (if you're not already in your senior year) that you will not hang out with the people that you hung out with freshman year. That's a rare thing to happen to somebody.
So, if you feel desperate enough, sit down with your friend and talk to her. Tell her how you feel. Make an agreement that she won't walk way or make fun of you if you start to cry (because you probably will.) You can't just go on without taking some sort of action. You can't avoid this drama.
HOWEVER. You can handle it in a mature manner. If all goes well with talking to your friend and she starts listening to you again, then all's good!! On the flip side, if things go wrong and she starts hating you, hey. Just blow it off. Show her that she can't hurt you. I'm sure that you have other friends at your school that you can hang with and maybe get closer to. Just.........don't let this bring you down, okay? There are so many people out there that you can become friends with. Not just those who attend school with you. Believe me.
Anyways, just give it a try. First try and become friends with S. Try and do things with just the two of you like go and see a movie, go to the mall, who knows? You may eventually become BFFs. But...if it doesn't work out, then just leave them. True friends wouldn't do what they're doing to you.
Hope this helps!
-Moka
