I don't think she's manipulating him or anything. She's not a bitch (I dislike her for various reasons despite her general friendliness... as some people from the summer program have been saying, she's nice enough but she's crazy); I think with her it would prob just be that natural desire to become closer to someone who you think you "click" with. And that's what's making me feel so shitty b/c I know that her intentions are prob innocent, but my mind is making it out to be more than it really is.
Last edited by bellpickle at 11:26:42 AM EDT on October 19, 2008.
After reading your blog for a long time and reading this post, I have concluded that me and you are cut from the same cloth when it comes to the boy we have a crush on.
We're freaking idkbffs, and I'm also afraid of screwing up if I asked him out. On a bit of a different note, however, a friend of mine - a boy - said that he would love it if a girl asked a boy out. Guys apparently feel that they're pressured to do it, so if DHB likes you, he may just be nervous. Boys are possible of feeling the same way we do.
Madman With a Box (Otaku Eternal) | Posted 10/18/08 | Reply
Perhaps it is time you tried to figure out if your relationship with DHB can go beyond just friendship.
It sounds like he's the kind of guy who tries to be nice to everyone, so he's trying to make friends with this girl because that's part of his personality. Whether she is intentionally manipulating his generosity of character or not has yet to be seen, but from the way you describe her it certainly seems possible.
I knew it was going to be something like that.
GAH! You have no idea how frustrating it is for me to hear something like that. You have an opportunity for something amazing. Go for it! And I'm not going to say you owe it to yourself. Sure, you probably do. But really, you owe it to everyone else that is unable to find people like you have found. You have this amazing thing, just waiting for you to take it, so go! Do it!
Because I'm scared that I might fuck up our otherwise super close and special friendship if he turns out being not interested
It's always a possibility, but it's not a certainty. Hell, take a friend of mine for instance. Just about a month ago, there was this girl that I he knew moderately well, and he went for it and asked her out. And you know what happened? He got totally shut down, completely. What'd she do? She neatly sidestepped it, and they were fine, and still talk, just like before.
Because I'm guessing that things aren't really the same afterwards.
You're making it sound like you don't have a say in this. Of course you do! You can make it however the hell you like it! If you want it the same, just more or something, etc., it can be! You're in charge of your own damn relationship, so it can be whatever you want it to be. And I'm sure he will feel the same way. He'll want to keep what you guys have already, just build on it.
Believe me, you'll regret it forever if you don't just take the chance. The worst that could possibly happen? You completely destroy the relationship. But think about the best that could happen if you do nothing. You guys stay friends forever, and you watch him as he goes out with other girls.
Now think about the best that could happen if you go for it and start going out.
Because I'm scared that I might fuck up our otherwise super close and special friendship if he turns out being not interested. Because I'm guessing that things aren't really the same afterwards.
Well if you feel like this, then why AREN'T you going out? From the sounds of it you are completely crazy over him, so, what's the deal?
If nothing is happening then he WILL probably eventually find some other girl. Do something while you have the chance!
My romance life is so fucking sad.
Hahahaha...believe me, yours is many, many times better than mine is. I don't even know any girls, nor have for several years (probably like, 5 years?), other than this one amazingly awesome girl. Only thing was she already had a boyfriend. But at least we were friends and I was able work on my ability to talk to girls.
Believe me, while it may be bad, you at least can make it better. So do something and go for it!!
From my point of view, you aren't being petty at all. I completely agree with you for being jealous and such.
But still, if you're going to be feeling like that, then you'd better have a good reason. I'm can't tell, but are you and DHB going out? If not, then really, you can't blame him for meeting new girls that can possibly be relationship material, etc. Maybe to him it seems like you guys aren't ever going to go out, so he's beginning to look elsewhere.
If you are going out, then ignore those last few lines, lol.
And yep, I guess that's what really liking someone can do, eh?
bellpickle
Pickle of the Year (Otaku Eternal) | Posted 10/19/08 | Reply
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Out of love, deaaar. <3
bellpickle
Pickle of the Year (Otaku Eternal) | Posted 10/19/08 | Reply
@TimeChaser:
I don't think she's manipulating him or anything. She's not a bitch (I dislike her for various reasons despite her general friendliness... as some people from the summer program have been saying, she's nice enough but she's crazy); I think with her it would prob just be that natural desire to become closer to someone who you think you "click" with. And that's what's making me feel so shitty b/c I know that her intentions are prob innocent, but my mind is making it out to be more than it really is.
Last edited by bellpickle at 11:26:42 AM EDT on October 19, 2008.
bellpickle
Pickle of the Year (Otaku Eternal) | Posted 10/19/08 | Reply
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...Honestly, he is a little pervy. Not nearly as much as Child Predator Laur, but still. xDDD
Katana
Goggalor (Otaku Eternal) | Posted 10/18/08 | Reply
After reading your blog for a long time and reading this post, I have concluded that me and you are cut from the same cloth when it comes to the boy we have a crush on.
We're freaking idkbffs, and I'm also afraid of screwing up if I asked him out. On a bit of a different note, however, a friend of mine - a boy - said that he would love it if a girl asked a boy out. Guys apparently feel that they're pressured to do it, so if DHB likes you, he may just be nervous. Boys are possible of feeling the same way we do.
"In Kat's wor we trust."
TimeChaser
Madman With a Box (Otaku Eternal) | Posted 10/18/08 | Reply
Perhaps it is time you tried to figure out if your relationship with DHB can go beyond just friendship.
It sounds like he's the kind of guy who tries to be nice to everyone, so he's trying to make friends with this girl because that's part of his personality. Whether she is intentionally manipulating his generosity of character or not has yet to be seen, but from the way you describe her it certainly seems possible.
Bazinga!
Kastom
Otaku Princess | Posted 10/18/08 | Reply
@bellpickle:
I knew it was going to be something like that.
GAH! You have no idea how frustrating it is for me to hear something like that. You have an opportunity for something amazing. Go for it! And I'm not going to say you owe it to yourself. Sure, you probably do. But really, you owe it to everyone else that is unable to find people like you have found. You have this amazing thing, just waiting for you to take it, so go! Do it!
Because I'm scared that I might fuck up our otherwise super close and special friendship if he turns out being not interested
It's always a possibility, but it's not a certainty. Hell, take a friend of mine for instance. Just about a month ago, there was this girl that I he knew moderately well, and he went for it and asked her out. And you know what happened? He got totally shut down, completely. What'd she do? She neatly sidestepped it, and they were fine, and still talk, just like before.
Because I'm guessing that things aren't really the same afterwards.
You're making it sound like you don't have a say in this. Of course you do! You can make it however the hell you like it! If you want it the same, just more or something, etc., it can be! You're in charge of your own damn relationship, so it can be whatever you want it to be. And I'm sure he will feel the same way. He'll want to keep what you guys have already, just build on it.
Believe me, you'll regret it forever if you don't just take the chance. The worst that could possibly happen? You completely destroy the relationship. But think about the best that could happen if you do nothing. You guys stay friends forever, and you watch him as he goes out with other girls.
Now think about the best that could happen if you go for it and start going out.
I'd rather see in shades of gray.
bellpickle
Pickle of the Year (Otaku Eternal) | Posted 10/18/08 | Reply
@Kastom:
Because I'm scared that I might fuck up our otherwise super close and special friendship if he turns out being not interested. Because I'm guessing that things aren't really the same afterwards.
Kastom
Otaku Princess | Posted 10/18/08 | Reply
@bellpickle:
Well if you feel like this, then why AREN'T you going out? From the sounds of it you are completely crazy over him, so, what's the deal?
If nothing is happening then he WILL probably eventually find some other girl. Do something while you have the chance!
My romance life is so fucking sad.
Hahahaha...believe me, yours is many, many times better than mine is. I don't even know any girls, nor have for several years (probably like, 5 years?), other than this one amazingly awesome girl. Only thing was she already had a boyfriend. But at least we were friends and I was able work on my ability to talk to girls.
Believe me, while it may be bad, you at least can make it better. So do something and go for it!!
I'd rather see in shades of gray.
bellpickle
Pickle of the Year (Otaku Eternal) | Posted 10/18/08 | Reply
@Kastom:
...We aren't going out.
you can't blame him for meeting new girls that can possibly be relationship material
Oh god. That line scares me so much. My romance life is so fucking sad. :((
Kastom
Otaku Princess | Posted 10/18/08 | Reply
From my point of view, you aren't being petty at all. I completely agree with you for being jealous and such.
But still, if you're going to be feeling like that, then you'd better have a good reason. I'm can't tell, but are you and DHB going out? If not, then really, you can't blame him for meeting new girls that can possibly be relationship material, etc. Maybe to him it seems like you guys aren't ever going to go out, so he's beginning to look elsewhere.
If you are going out, then ignore those last few lines, lol.
And yep, I guess that's what really liking someone can do, eh?
I'd rather see in shades of gray.