IMO it was easier for her to talk to your dad than for you to talk to him because he's a more distant relative towards her, than towards you. But hey, if you two are going through the same problem, you might find it easier to rebuild your friendship; who knows, maybe her depression caused her to distance herself from you once she left. Either way, I'd focus more on dealing with this together with her (if she's willing to), than on "what if"s regarding your dad. Just my two cents :)
Last edited by sweetdevil at 12:21:15 PM EST on February 8, 2014.
Yes, nepotism is the right word, haha...It's too weird, what others can say to our parents that we can't. And, I seriously have no intention to flare up things...I was just shocked that's all...
And, you know, the way to have to deal with shit at your school everyday and still feel sad when its closed, I'm the same way. Can't live with it and can't live without it, hehe.
And, I'll try and share things with her, it won't be too hard since she'll live in my room, while I'll have my mids and final exams. Dx
Thank you so much, nikki-chan for knocking some sense into me! :) I was really angry initially and quite shocked too, but you're right, I need to chin up and I'll also try and just forget everything and welcome her with warmth, haha...;)
So the headliners are:
Nepotism
Van Trouble
College hazing...
All of which seem treacherous. I don't know what to say about the van and for college I'd say just focus on the work, if I was in college, I'd be a freaking ghost. I already don't trust strangers, with us being adults, that would make me even more on edge...But that's just me.
Still, nepotism is horrible. If I were to suggest anything it'd be to ignore it, considering that you've always been on uneven terms with your dad, it would be best not to let it flare up again.
I'd say live more for yourself. As for your cousin, maybe you might want to seek help from her if possible; maybe she's had a hard time talking to you considering how bad she's feeling...But at the end of the day you two should have each-other's backs.
Chin up, it might be different because she is not his daughter. You tend to not want to think of your kids as being depressed or sad or angry with their life... their emotions and the way they feel are a direct outlook on them! Be patient and try to approach him a little at a time. He may be more understanding then you realize. If she wants to come back then maybe it is good. You may have someone in person who you can talk to about all the things you feel and if she is feeling the same way she will understand. Sometimes when you are depressed and lonely you don't want to talk to people unless they are right in front of you making you talk. I hope you feel better and try to relax (: smile and keep being the great person you are!
Hifsa
Otaku Legend | Posted 02/09/14 | Reply
@sweetdevil:
Thank you, I'll try my best. It'll tough I guess but I'll try telling her things...
sweetdevil
Embracing Insanity (Otaku Eternal) | Posted 02/08/14 | Reply
Edit: Nikkeh said it best.
IMO it was easier for her to talk to your dad than for you to talk to him because he's a more distant relative towards her, than towards you. But hey, if you two are going through the same problem, you might find it easier to rebuild your friendship; who knows, maybe her depression caused her to distance herself from you once she left. Either way, I'd focus more on dealing with this together with her (if she's willing to), than on "what if"s regarding your dad. Just my two cents :)
Last edited by sweetdevil at 12:21:15 PM EST on February 8, 2014.
Hifsa
Otaku Legend | Posted 02/08/14 | Reply
@Kazamas-Keyblade:
Yes, nepotism is the right word, haha...It's too weird, what others can say to our parents that we can't. And, I seriously have no intention to flare up things...I was just shocked that's all...
And, you know, the way to have to deal with shit at your school everyday and still feel sad when its closed, I'm the same way. Can't live with it and can't live without it, hehe.
And, I'll try and share things with her, it won't be too hard since she'll live in my room, while I'll have my mids and final exams. Dx
Hifsa
Otaku Legend | Posted 02/08/14 | Reply
@nikkeh09:
Thank you so much, nikki-chan for knocking some sense into me! :) I was really angry initially and quite shocked too, but you're right, I need to chin up and I'll also try and just forget everything and welcome her with warmth, haha...;)
Kazamas-Keyblade
Otaku Legend | Posted 02/07/14 | Reply
So the headliners are:
Nepotism
Van Trouble
College hazing...
All of which seem treacherous. I don't know what to say about the van and for college I'd say just focus on the work, if I was in college, I'd be a freaking ghost. I already don't trust strangers, with us being adults, that would make me even more on edge...But that's just me.
Still, nepotism is horrible. If I were to suggest anything it'd be to ignore it, considering that you've always been on uneven terms with your dad, it would be best not to let it flare up again.
I'd say live more for yourself. As for your cousin, maybe you might want to seek help from her if possible; maybe she's had a hard time talking to you considering how bad she's feeling...But at the end of the day you two should have each-other's backs.
nikkeh09
~Nikkeh~ (Grand Otaku) | Posted 02/07/14 | Reply
Chin up, it might be different because she is not his daughter. You tend to not want to think of your kids as being depressed or sad or angry with their life... their emotions and the way they feel are a direct outlook on them! Be patient and try to approach him a little at a time. He may be more understanding then you realize. If she wants to come back then maybe it is good. You may have someone in person who you can talk to about all the things you feel and if she is feeling the same way she will understand. Sometimes when you are depressed and lonely you don't want to talk to people unless they are right in front of you making you talk. I hope you feel better and try to relax (: smile and keep being the great person you are!