PS (before I begin! xD) Sorry for my late comment, I didn't realize you wrote this post a while ago... But I thought I'd say something anyway^^
Oh Chivee! I'm sorry to read this sad post but I'm glad that you typed out a life post like this <3 You've already gotten tons of good advice from amazing Otakus, I'll try not to say too much here^^" I skimmed through the comments and I think my advice would be most similar to what Crimson-Rose said. For the play, you just need to give it your best with the best attitude because even if you're personally offended, you never know what could come of this. There could even be reasons of testing you to see how you react, and thats why a good attitude about it is crucial. Also tho the director said some harsh things, you could use that as motivation to do your best and get even better to prove yourself, especially if she doesn't have faith in you right now.
I know how that feels because I'm dealing with a dog-owner at this time who doesn't think I know anything. She'll continually worry about if I know how to take care of her dogs and then she'll go as far as to tell me what is 'right'. Its really frustrating because its like she's almost jealous and trying to slow me down instead of trust me, just because she can't do what I can do. Its hard to deal with, when these people are authoritative figures too, but the best thing we can do right now is be patient and take things as they come. If it gets too hard for you, maybe you should leave the play. But I wouldn't recommend that, seeing I know that you are much stronger then this <3 *hugs*
Also I'm sorry to hear about the issue with your buddy... Have you confessed to him yet about your feelings? Its not 'letting your feelings get the better of you', its actually letting go of emotion in the right way. Even if he's involved with that someone else, if you are being tormented by what you feel, I think you should just say it to him. If you feel like you can let him go instead, then you're going to have to have a lot of will-power and time to wait out your feelings. Sometimes it is easy to begin to get too close to someone after a nice deed. I don't think getting away from him or avoiding him is what you should do. Face him with your own feelings and decide for once whether you like him enough to admit it to him or whether you should leave things be and let it go (even tho I know its not as easy as that, it's gonna be super hard either way but more freeing if you just talk to him properly. You might even find that even if he doesn't feel the same towards you, he might understand and the tension will leave).
So dont give up! All your friends and me are cheering for you to get the victory :)
And from Baron von Gikkingen: "Always believe in yourself. Do this and no matter where you are, you will have nothing to fear.
If you find yourself troubled by something mysterious or a problem that's had to solve, there's a place you can go where you always find help. You just need to look for it."
:)
Chibi Artist Girl (Otaku Eternal) | Posted 09/10/13 | Reply
YIKES, I can't believe she said those things! I would say try to stick with it, but definitely talk to her (or even another teacher) about this, and if it's still stressing you out too much/she doesn't stop, then you may want to quit.
Last edited by kita mikichi at 10:52:39 PM EDT on September 10, 2013.
I'm so sorry to hear about this chi. I know that you were so happy about the play and you do have the skills of a lead roll. I don't care what your director says. To be honest with what she's said to you and how she's been yelling at you. Personally when that happens to me I will politely say that I am leaving and explain why I am leaving.
I think if you quit the play it will help relieve some of your stress that is being piled on to everything else, but it will probably also help you think about how you really feel about your friend. It's hard but take a few calming breaths and a shower to try to help you relax and then make your decision on what you would like to do about the play. Tackle one mountain at a time dear. You'll be able to get through it I know you will.
I wouldn't be so kicked about having a Freshman being on a similar level. Shit, I was a Freshman last year and people were like "You're just a freshman, you can't do much" to which I responded "Yes I can" and did.
But about your director basically kicking you in the stomach like that, that's wrong.
And the Puck thing was a bit uncomfortable. I'd be out of feeling if that happened to me.
But yeah, I say if said person is only stringing you along out of guilt, I say save yourself the stress, and the director the burden and just quit.
I would refuse to do a job out of pity, either have purpose or don't join.
But I think you have a right to be upset. Don't feel guilty about it.
I'm so sorry that both of these situations have to come for you at the same time.
I believe that you made a good move to ask your director about the casting. At least you get to understand why it was done. I don't think she would give you a different role since it seems like she is set with what she put you as. I think that you should keep the role that you have and make the best of it. So you could continue to have the connections and interaction with your friends. I don't think you should quit, because that is probably what the director wanted. After this, there will be more opportunities for you to land a role that you like. Also being in a play is what you love, right? So, what the director has against you doesn't matter. What matter is that you have a role in the play and that you are going to enjoy it ^^
As for your friend problem...I have no experience about this type of thing but I would like to say that it might be best to continue what you are doing, which is having a distant between you and him. Since you described that he and his girlfriend are perfect for each other and are happy, it might not be best to tell him how you feel.Because it may change the relationship between him and his girlfriend's and yours and his. This might be just a crush that come and go. Like what you described, since you see him day in and night of course you would develop some sort of feeling for him...If he ever feel like you are avoiding(which in a sense you kinda are) you could let him know and see how everything will pan out.
Time will help.
Also if your school have counselors, it might not be a bad idea to go see one and ask them for help. Since that is what they are there for and are the experts.
Best of luck.
I've never got into a play, but I know what it means to be disregarded like that!! you're right to get mad at it, especially if you realize that someone thinks you're not worthy enough. I've never seen you act, but I'm sure you're great!! so my advice is to play the play lol is that even correct? well whatever you know what I mean ;) and try to show the director you're awesome!! they'll end up regretting it, and in the next play you might have a better role <3 I know that going from the lead to the lowest part is not good, but remember, everything helps you improve, even the smallest things! ^^
and as for your best friend.. maybe it's normal.. I mean, he's been close to you when no one else was!! ^^ to feel something for him is normal... I don't know what advice I should give you in this case, but I really, REALLY hope everything will get well soon for you!!
you're a wonderful person, who doesn't deserve to suffer!! and if you'll need any hep, I'll always be here for you, ok? don't forget it!! *super hug*
I can't really help with the boy problems but with the director, I think you could just stay with the play, so you can get the experience and contacts and friends but stay out of the way the director so she can't up set you and you never know things might get better but if things get too bad for you, as a last resort, I think you should leave the production. but this all up to you, good luck and I hope you feel better soon
Courage isnt a matter of not being afraid, Its being afraid and doing what you have to do anyway!
This is quite the situation. Your long post is no bother at all. In fact I rather like reading long posts. But anyway to the matters at hand.
I've never been cast in a play,then again I'd have to have interest in acting but that isn't important. But what is important is that something unfair is happening to you. I believe you would be perfect for a lead role and your director doesn't need to be yelling at you and treat you like crap. My best advice is go with gut instincts. I would also stand up for myself against said director and you tell him,"I don't appreciate the way you've been treating me. I deserve to be treated fairly." and if he or she doesn't respond well to this then I would resign from the play if things don't change. You don't deserve this treatment from them. There are better opportunities out there for you I know it. But ultimately the choice is up to you.
As for your developing feelings for your friend. I honestly don't know what to tell you. I've never been in love fully to understand it. All I can say is follow your heart and if you and your friend are meant to be together then you will be. I'm sorry if this doesn't help much I'm just not very experienced in this stuff. I've had crushes and when I tried asking a few boys to take me to my prom and they didn't respond I was crushed. I ended up going to prom with my friend and it was hard. But anyway I digress. My best advice would be to just let life happen. Continue being friends with him and maybe something more will happen,you never know.
And you can always talk to me about anything if you need. I'm just a PM away. Loves you dear friend. *huggles*
~Judai
MangaKid
Otaku Legend | Posted 09/22/13 | Reply
PS (before I begin! xD) Sorry for my late comment, I didn't realize you wrote this post a while ago... But I thought I'd say something anyway^^
Oh Chivee! I'm sorry to read this sad post but I'm glad that you typed out a life post like this <3 You've already gotten tons of good advice from amazing Otakus, I'll try not to say too much here^^" I skimmed through the comments and I think my advice would be most similar to what Crimson-Rose said. For the play, you just need to give it your best with the best attitude because even if you're personally offended, you never know what could come of this. There could even be reasons of testing you to see how you react, and thats why a good attitude about it is crucial. Also tho the director said some harsh things, you could use that as motivation to do your best and get even better to prove yourself, especially if she doesn't have faith in you right now.
I know how that feels because I'm dealing with a dog-owner at this time who doesn't think I know anything. She'll continually worry about if I know how to take care of her dogs and then she'll go as far as to tell me what is 'right'. Its really frustrating because its like she's almost jealous and trying to slow me down instead of trust me, just because she can't do what I can do. Its hard to deal with, when these people are authoritative figures too, but the best thing we can do right now is be patient and take things as they come. If it gets too hard for you, maybe you should leave the play. But I wouldn't recommend that, seeing I know that you are much stronger then this <3 *hugs*
Also I'm sorry to hear about the issue with your buddy... Have you confessed to him yet about your feelings? Its not 'letting your feelings get the better of you', its actually letting go of emotion in the right way. Even if he's involved with that someone else, if you are being tormented by what you feel, I think you should just say it to him. If you feel like you can let him go instead, then you're going to have to have a lot of will-power and time to wait out your feelings. Sometimes it is easy to begin to get too close to someone after a nice deed. I don't think getting away from him or avoiding him is what you should do. Face him with your own feelings and decide for once whether you like him enough to admit it to him or whether you should leave things be and let it go (even tho I know its not as easy as that, it's gonna be super hard either way but more freeing if you just talk to him properly. You might even find that even if he doesn't feel the same towards you, he might understand and the tension will leave).
So dont give up! All your friends and me are cheering for you to get the victory :)
And from Baron von Gikkingen: "Always believe in yourself. Do this and no matter where you are, you will have nothing to fear.
If you find yourself troubled by something mysterious or a problem that's had to solve, there's a place you can go where you always find help. You just need to look for it."
:)
kita mikichi
Chibi Artist Girl (Otaku Eternal) | Posted 09/10/13 | Reply
YIKES, I can't believe she said those things! I would say try to stick with it, but definitely talk to her (or even another teacher) about this, and if it's still stressing you out too much/she doesn't stop, then you may want to quit.
Last edited by kita mikichi at 10:52:39 PM EDT on September 10, 2013.
clueless101
Keyblade Master (Otaku Eternal) | Posted 09/10/13 | Reply
I'm so sorry to hear about this chi. I know that you were so happy about the play and you do have the skills of a lead roll. I don't care what your director says. To be honest with what she's said to you and how she's been yelling at you. Personally when that happens to me I will politely say that I am leaving and explain why I am leaving.
I think if you quit the play it will help relieve some of your stress that is being piled on to everything else, but it will probably also help you think about how you really feel about your friend. It's hard but take a few calming breaths and a shower to try to help you relax and then make your decision on what you would like to do about the play. Tackle one mountain at a time dear. You'll be able to get through it I know you will.
*Hugs and all the stuffie hugs with it*
If you want to be happy, be. ~Leo Tolstoy
Kazamas-Keyblade
Otaku Legend | Posted 09/10/13 | Reply
Man, that's just messed up!
I wouldn't be so kicked about having a Freshman being on a similar level. Shit, I was a Freshman last year and people were like "You're just a freshman, you can't do much" to which I responded "Yes I can" and did.
But about your director basically kicking you in the stomach like that, that's wrong.
And the Puck thing was a bit uncomfortable. I'd be out of feeling if that happened to me.
But yeah, I say if said person is only stringing you along out of guilt, I say save yourself the stress, and the director the burden and just quit.
I would refuse to do a job out of pity, either have purpose or don't join.
But I think you have a right to be upset. Don't feel guilty about it.
Most things do get better.
pandaman08
Otaku Eternal | Posted 09/10/13 | Reply
I'm so sorry that both of these situations have to come for you at the same time.
I believe that you made a good move to ask your director about the casting. At least you get to understand why it was done. I don't think she would give you a different role since it seems like she is set with what she put you as. I think that you should keep the role that you have and make the best of it. So you could continue to have the connections and interaction with your friends. I don't think you should quit, because that is probably what the director wanted. After this, there will be more opportunities for you to land a role that you like. Also being in a play is what you love, right? So, what the director has against you doesn't matter. What matter is that you have a role in the play and that you are going to enjoy it ^^
As for your friend problem...I have no experience about this type of thing but I would like to say that it might be best to continue what you are doing, which is having a distant between you and him. Since you described that he and his girlfriend are perfect for each other and are happy, it might not be best to tell him how you feel.Because it may change the relationship between him and his girlfriend's and yours and his. This might be just a crush that come and go. Like what you described, since you see him day in and night of course you would develop some sort of feeling for him...If he ever feel like you are avoiding(which in a sense you kinda are) you could let him know and see how everything will pan out.
Time will help.
Also if your school have counselors, it might not be a bad idea to go see one and ask them for help. Since that is what they are there for and are the experts.
Best of luck.
DeathSeraph
Azure Dragon (Otaku Eternal) | Posted 09/10/13 | Reply
I've never got into a play, but I know what it means to be disregarded like that!! you're right to get mad at it, especially if you realize that someone thinks you're not worthy enough. I've never seen you act, but I'm sure you're great!! so my advice is to play the play
lol is that even correct? well whatever you know what I mean ;)and try to show the director you're awesome!! they'll end up regretting it, and in the next play you might have a better role <3 I know that going from the lead to the lowest part is not good, but remember, everything helps you improve, even the smallest things! ^^and as for your best friend.. maybe it's normal.. I mean, he's been close to you when no one else was!! ^^ to feel something for him is normal... I don't know what advice I should give you in this case, but I really, REALLY hope everything will get well soon for you!!
you're a wonderful person, who doesn't deserve to suffer!! and if you'll need any hep, I'll always be here for you, ok? don't forget it!! *super hug*
Ellenor Mererid
Spoilers ;3 (Otaku Eternal) | Posted 09/10/13 | Reply
I can't really help with the boy problems but with the director, I think you could just stay with the play, so you can get the experience and contacts and friends but stay out of the way the director so she can't up set you and you never know things might get better but if things get too bad for you, as a last resort, I think you should leave the production. but this all up to you, good luck and I hope you feel better soon
Courage isnt a matter of not being afraid, Its being afraid and doing what you have to do anyway!
Rainbow Dragon
☠Eastsider✰Pirate☠ (Otaku Eternal) | Posted 09/10/13 | Reply
This is quite the situation. Your long post is no bother at all. In fact I rather like reading long posts. But anyway to the matters at hand.
I've never been cast in a play,then again I'd have to have interest in acting but that isn't important. But what is important is that something unfair is happening to you. I believe you would be perfect for a lead role and your director doesn't need to be yelling at you and treat you like crap. My best advice is go with gut instincts. I would also stand up for myself against said director and you tell him,"I don't appreciate the way you've been treating me. I deserve to be treated fairly." and if he or she doesn't respond well to this then I would resign from the play if things don't change. You don't deserve this treatment from them. There are better opportunities out there for you I know it. But ultimately the choice is up to you.
As for your developing feelings for your friend. I honestly don't know what to tell you. I've never been in love fully to understand it. All I can say is follow your heart and if you and your friend are meant to be together then you will be. I'm sorry if this doesn't help much I'm just not very experienced in this stuff. I've had crushes and when I tried asking a few boys to take me to my prom and they didn't respond I was crushed. I ended up going to prom with my friend and it was hard. But anyway I digress. My best advice would be to just let life happen. Continue being friends with him and maybe something more will happen,you never know.
And you can always talk to me about anything if you need. I'm just a PM away. Loves you dear friend. *huggles*
~Judai