Yes, I can. And sometimes I can take the bus from school to someone else's house. I just can't walk there, I don't have my own car, and my parents are too busy working to drive me.
Happiness can be found, even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light.
I know this is a late comment, I just realised I haven't said hi in a while... And then to find out all that has been happening to you! I'm sorry you have had to deal with such stress. When families argue they don't always realise the hurt and harm it can cause to the their kids.
I'm happy to hear you have a good bunch of friends. Can you spend time with them after school? Go round to their house for a break or anything? I know that used to help me when I got stressed. I guess I was fortunate as my best friend lived only a short walk away.
I hope your Dad calms down and realises he was being a bit unreasonable in arranging things without informing you. I mean, if he had told you or phoned you then you could have met your teacher and this whole mess could have been smoothed over. Uh. Did you manage to find your teacher the next day after all? I hope things work out.
Anytime. I'm often telling my friend that that is exactly what friends are there for. No judging, no yelling, just a shoulder to lean on and an ear to listen to all your venting. We help keep each other sane, don't you think? I know you may have tons of friends that say this, so let's add another one to the list. If ever you need to talk, about anything, you can always hit me up. I'll listen and try to help as much and best I can
Thanks very much...I know that they sometimes just yell because they are stressed. It was just hard to see that when I was so hurt and upset. It's never fun to be yelled at, but you know, I've realized that I'll never be happy if I hold grudges all my life. So even though I'll probably have trouble trusting them for a while, I know I won't be angry forever.
Happiness can be found, even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light.
Thank you. I really appreciate that. Basically when my family went to therapy, I wrote out my feelings so that I'd be able to express them in a way I thought others might understand or even relate to, and then I'd say those things to my parents. I really thought I'd gotten through to them...or maybe they were just yelling because they were stressed. People do that. What really helps is that I have people to talk to...and vent to. So thank you again.
Happiness can be found, even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light.
This is what I do...I write my emotions down on paper...that way, it doesn't matter if no one understands how I'm feeling, because I understand it better and it's not meant for them to read. I'm feeling a little better now...though still having trouble accessing a computer I can use...but I have people at my school and on theO that I can vent to and look to for support, so that does help.
Happiness can be found, even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light.
Thanks. *hugs back* Well, the thing is, my family went to therapy for a while and I tried that--explaining how I felt--and I really thought it had worked. You know what, though, I can still write to help sort out my emotions, and I still have friends I trust to lean on, both on theO and at school. I know I should be grateful for that.
Happiness can be found, even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light.
Loosing trust is something terrible. I am sorry that it happened to you, but you must try to always bring back the good memories that you have. They will help you in managing to survive until the very hour when your ways will part with your parents.
I am really sorry that you have to go through all that. I do hope that things will calm down a little for you.
I'm so sorry to hear all the shit that's hitting you at the same time. It's a douchey move on your parents to yell and scream at you without even attempting to hear you out. I totally understand what it's like to need an outlet to let it all out and not have it or have people that understand you in some way. At least you have offline friends that can brighten up your spirits and you have us of course to make it all the more bearable. You want to scream? Yell at the top of your lungs? Do it! Maybe that way your folks will stop their petty shit against you and finally listen to you and try to get you. I don't know the details about your family therapy so I can't say much there, but all I can do is really offer yet another shoulder to lean on and cry and yell when you need it.
Rising from Ashes (Otaku Eternal) | Posted 01/11/12 | Reply
Well, first of all, I'm really sorry to hear all of this. It does sound incredibly stressful. *hugs* And it's okay to rant here, that's what it's for. ^^; Secondly, the best thing to do first is maybe e-mail your teacher or personally apologize to her and say that it was a misunderstanding and that you didn't know your dad e-mailed her. It's not your fault you didn't know, but letting her know is probably a good idea.
I'm also really sorry to hear about the family stuff. That can be really bad when they cut you off from everything. Perhaps you can try to make a compromise with them about the yelling, tell them it's only stressing you out and making you feel bad at school, affecting your work. The only thing I could think of you doing is to just be honest, tell people what's really going on. Because, if you hold it in, it will only get worse.
The no computer or drawing thing sucks major... I hope you still draw, though. That could help you de-emotionalize a little bit. Put all your emotions onto paper, you know?
Anyway... I hope what I tried to say makes sense and that things get better for you. School's tough enough without parents yelling and not having access to friends.
I truly hope things get better for you. Just take a deep breath and prioritize, think about things you want to tell them. I hope it works out okay. ^^ *hugs*
Sarasface
Ethereal Wanderer (Otaku Eternal) | Posted 01/19/12 | Reply
@Kaerlyn:
Maybe when midterms are over.
Happiness can be found, even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light.
Kaerlyn
Tea pixie (Otaku Eternal) | Posted 01/18/12 | Reply
@Sarasface:
Maybe, if it is ok with your friends, you could organise a sleepover? Then that way you'd get a little break?
Sarasface
Ethereal Wanderer (Otaku Eternal) | Posted 01/17/12 | Reply
@Kaerlyn:
Yes, I can. And sometimes I can take the bus from school to someone else's house. I just can't walk there, I don't have my own car, and my parents are too busy working to drive me.
Happiness can be found, even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light.
Kaerlyn
Tea pixie (Otaku Eternal) | Posted 01/17/12 | Reply
@Sarasface:
That's a shame. Can you phone them?
Sarasface
Ethereal Wanderer (Otaku Eternal) | Posted 01/17/12 | Reply
@Kaerlyn:
Thanks. It all worked out in the end. It usually does. And I feel a lot better now.
The problem with hanging out with friends: I live out in the middle of nowhere.
Last edited by Sarasface at 5:17:55 PM CST on January 17, 2012.
Happiness can be found, even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light.
Kaerlyn
Tea pixie (Otaku Eternal) | Posted 01/17/12 | Reply
I know this is a late comment, I just realised I haven't said hi in a while... And then to find out all that has been happening to you! I'm sorry you have had to deal with such stress. When families argue they don't always realise the hurt and harm it can cause to the their kids.
I'm happy to hear you have a good bunch of friends. Can you spend time with them after school? Go round to their house for a break or anything? I know that used to help me when I got stressed. I guess I was fortunate as my best friend lived only a short walk away.
I hope your Dad calms down and realises he was being a bit unreasonable in arranging things without informing you. I mean, if he had told you or phoned you then you could have met your teacher and this whole mess could have been smoothed over. Uh. Did you manage to find your teacher the next day after all? I hope things work out.
Sarasface
Ethereal Wanderer (Otaku Eternal) | Posted 01/13/12 | Reply
@Crimson Buu:
It's true. Without theO and my school frineds, I don't know what I'd do. Sometimes I just need to vent. Thank you very much, I appreciate that.
Happiness can be found, even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light.
Crimson Buu
Senior Otaku | Posted 01/12/12 | Reply
@Sarasface:
Anytime. I'm often telling my friend that that is exactly what friends are there for. No judging, no yelling, just a shoulder to lean on and an ear to listen to all your venting. We help keep each other sane, don't you think? I know you may have tons of friends that say this, so let's add another one to the list. If ever you need to talk, about anything, you can always hit me up. I'll listen and try to help as much and best I can
Sarasface
Ethereal Wanderer (Otaku Eternal) | Posted 01/12/12 | Reply
@LightFykki:
Thanks very much...I know that they sometimes just yell because they are stressed. It was just hard to see that when I was so hurt and upset. It's never fun to be yelled at, but you know, I've realized that I'll never be happy if I hold grudges all my life. So even though I'll probably have trouble trusting them for a while, I know I won't be angry forever.
Happiness can be found, even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light.
Sarasface
Ethereal Wanderer (Otaku Eternal) | Posted 01/12/12 | Reply
@Crimson Buu:
Thank you. I really appreciate that. Basically when my family went to therapy, I wrote out my feelings so that I'd be able to express them in a way I thought others might understand or even relate to, and then I'd say those things to my parents. I really thought I'd gotten through to them...or maybe they were just yelling because they were stressed. People do that. What really helps is that I have people to talk to...and vent to. So thank you again.
Happiness can be found, even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light.
Sarasface
Ethereal Wanderer (Otaku Eternal) | Posted 01/12/12 | Reply
@:
This is what I do...I write my emotions down on paper...that way, it doesn't matter if no one understands how I'm feeling, because I understand it better and it's not meant for them to read. I'm feeling a little better now...though still having trouble accessing a computer I can use...but I have people at my school and on theO that I can vent to and look to for support, so that does help.
Happiness can be found, even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light.
Sarasface
Ethereal Wanderer (Otaku Eternal) | Posted 01/12/12 | Reply
@Razing Phoenix:
Thanks. *hugs back* Well, the thing is, my family went to therapy for a while and I tried that--explaining how I felt--and I really thought it had worked. You know what, though, I can still write to help sort out my emotions, and I still have friends I trust to lean on, both on theO and at school. I know I should be grateful for that.
Happiness can be found, even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light.
LightFykki
Drachen Herz (Otaku Eternal) | Posted 01/12/12 | Reply
Loosing trust is something terrible. I am sorry that it happened to you, but you must try to always bring back the good memories that you have. They will help you in managing to survive until the very hour when your ways will part with your parents.
I am really sorry that you have to go through all that. I do hope that things will calm down a little for you.
Crimson Buu
Senior Otaku | Posted 01/11/12 | Reply
I'm so sorry to hear all the shit that's hitting you at the same time. It's a douchey move on your parents to yell and scream at you without even attempting to hear you out. I totally understand what it's like to need an outlet to let it all out and not have it or have people that understand you in some way. At least you have offline friends that can brighten up your spirits and you have us of course to make it all the more bearable. You want to scream? Yell at the top of your lungs? Do it! Maybe that way your folks will stop their petty shit against you and finally listen to you and try to get you. I don't know the details about your family therapy so I can't say much there, but all I can do is really offer yet another shoulder to lean on and cry and yell when you need it.
Razing Phoenix
Rising from Ashes (Otaku Eternal) | Posted 01/11/12 | Reply
Well, first of all, I'm really sorry to hear all of this. It does sound incredibly stressful. *hugs* And it's okay to rant here, that's what it's for. ^^; Secondly, the best thing to do first is maybe e-mail your teacher or personally apologize to her and say that it was a misunderstanding and that you didn't know your dad e-mailed her. It's not your fault you didn't know, but letting her know is probably a good idea.
I'm also really sorry to hear about the family stuff. That can be really bad when they cut you off from everything. Perhaps you can try to make a compromise with them about the yelling, tell them it's only stressing you out and making you feel bad at school, affecting your work. The only thing I could think of you doing is to just be honest, tell people what's really going on. Because, if you hold it in, it will only get worse.
The no computer or drawing thing sucks major... I hope you still draw, though. That could help you de-emotionalize a little bit. Put all your emotions onto paper, you know?
Anyway... I hope what I tried to say makes sense and that things get better for you. School's tough enough without parents yelling and not having access to friends.
I truly hope things get better for you. Just take a deep breath and prioritize, think about things you want to tell them. I hope it works out okay. ^^ *hugs*
~Razi-chan