Pickle of the Year (Otaku Eternal) | Posted 10/18/08 | Reply
I don't really think you have much to worry about. It's not like you HAVE to be one or the other; it's perfectly okay to like partying sometimes and like staying in sometimes. It's not like the two can't co-exist and your friends should be able to understand that. (As in, they shouldn't constantly pressure you to party, or on the flip side, pressure you to NOT party if you really want to.) As long as you're smart about drinking and all that, it's not really an issue...
Personally, I don't party because I don't drink, and to be perfectly honest, there's no point in going to parties at Kenyon if you don't drink. I don't have anything really against people who do, but it's just not for me, and I think it's total BS when my friends say that I should go to parties to meet people b/c from what I can tell, no one really makes friends at parties. It just seems as if most people form their closest friendships OUTSIDE of parties rather than in them, you know? And it's probably the same when it comes to you and girls; if you want to form any sort of meaningful relationship with a girl, it will probably start outside of a party rather than in one.
Funnily enough, I have the opposite problem as you; I don't have enough friends of the same gender! And it's an issue because I realize now how convenient it is to be BFFs with your roommate, but my only BFF female friend would rather have a single if she can help it. :(
Last edited by bellpickle at 7:22:50 PM EDT on October 18, 2008.
See, that's part of the problem. Sometimes, I LIKE to party, and I don't want to just sit around and play video game. I WANT to go drinking and do crazy things. The only problem is that I'm really not consistent, and therefore it makes it rather difficult to meet people, since most are one or the other, while I flip constantly.
You kind of answered your own question by talking it out this way. You are who you are - a person who is most himself when he's playing video games or watching TV or whatever. Don't demote yourself to something you're not just because you want to find a girlfriend or whatever. I've gone seventeen years without a boyfriend, but I'm not desperate enough to stoop to being somebody I'm not. Someday, I'll met a guy who likes to be a geek like me, and when that day comes, I'll be happy I didn't have to wear a mask.
Madman With a Box (Otaku Eternal) | Posted 10/18/08 | Reply
I was never a party person. I don't care if people tell me "You can actually meet people if you go to parties," because there has to be other, better ways to meet people.
My advice to you: don't become a party person. That might be fun once in awhile, but it shouldn't be the sole concern of your life or definition of who you are. ^^
bellpickle
Pickle of the Year (Otaku Eternal) | Posted 10/18/08 | Reply
I don't really think you have much to worry about. It's not like you HAVE to be one or the other; it's perfectly okay to like partying sometimes and like staying in sometimes. It's not like the two can't co-exist and your friends should be able to understand that. (As in, they shouldn't constantly pressure you to party, or on the flip side, pressure you to NOT party if you really want to.) As long as you're smart about drinking and all that, it's not really an issue...
Personally, I don't party because I don't drink, and to be perfectly honest, there's no point in going to parties at Kenyon if you don't drink. I don't have anything really against people who do, but it's just not for me, and I think it's total BS when my friends say that I should go to parties to meet people b/c from what I can tell, no one really makes friends at parties. It just seems as if most people form their closest friendships OUTSIDE of parties rather than in them, you know? And it's probably the same when it comes to you and girls; if you want to form any sort of meaningful relationship with a girl, it will probably start outside of a party rather than in one.
Funnily enough, I have the opposite problem as you; I don't have enough friends of the same gender! And it's an issue because I realize now how convenient it is to be BFFs with your roommate, but my only BFF female friend would rather have a single if she can help it. :(
Last edited by bellpickle at 7:22:50 PM EDT on October 18, 2008.
Kastom
Otaku Princess | Posted 10/18/08 | Reply
@Katana:
See, that's part of the problem. Sometimes, I LIKE to party, and I don't want to just sit around and play video game. I WANT to go drinking and do crazy things. The only problem is that I'm really not consistent, and therefore it makes it rather difficult to meet people, since most are one or the other, while I flip constantly.
I'd rather see in shades of gray.
Kastom
Otaku Princess | Posted 10/18/08 | Reply
@TimeChaser:
That might be fun once in awhile, but it shouldn't be the sole concern of your life or definition of who you are.
Yeah, that's what I'm thinking. Doing that in moderation, because I DO like to, just definitely not a lot, or like it's extremely important.
I'd rather see in shades of gray.
Katana
Goggalor (Otaku Eternal) | Posted 10/18/08 | Reply
You kind of answered your own question by talking it out this way. You are who you are - a person who is most himself when he's playing video games or watching TV or whatever. Don't demote yourself to something you're not just because you want to find a girlfriend or whatever. I've gone seventeen years without a boyfriend, but I'm not desperate enough to stoop to being somebody I'm not. Someday, I'll met a guy who likes to be a geek like me, and when that day comes, I'll be happy I didn't have to wear a mask.
"In Kat's wor we trust."
TimeChaser
Madman With a Box (Otaku Eternal) | Posted 10/18/08 | Reply
I was never a party person. I don't care if people tell me "You can actually meet people if you go to parties," because there has to be other, better ways to meet people.
My advice to you: don't become a party person. That might be fun once in awhile, but it shouldn't be the sole concern of your life or definition of who you are. ^^
Bazinga!