(1)oh my.. why don't you just ignore him?
that is, if you really are that desperate.
if you ignore him, he might not bother you anymore or it may just get worse.. he might bother you even more.. so you have to make sure not to make him hope that you'll still be there for him.
(2)but if you're selfless enough to still care about how he feels, then why not try to close your eyes and put yourself in his shoe.. try to see what he sees, try to feel how he feels, try to forget that you are you and try to pretend to be him..
.. how does it feels like? that no one understands you? that you have only one person you trust? then how would you feel when she suddenly tells you that she doesn't even care? would you be hurt? yes you will.. but you don't want her to know right? cause you have to act strong.. and try not to bother her anymore..
but then again, if he's really your friend, he'll understand..
those are the possible outcomes of your actions (that I could think of)..
make a step,
and choose the right choice,
everything is up to you.
I see. Tell him you appreciate his being able to confide in you, for that is what it truly sounds like. It seems as though he is comfortable to come to you about his problems. That's part of being friends or making friends - bearing some of their burden. However, I DO understand your point of view. Tell him that it's a lot right now and to maybe hold off on some of those pressing matters he seems to relay to you frequently. I don't think there is anything wrong with saying that. Just be kind about it.
he is a friends but he is not a close friend and he started to put the weight on me when our friendship was like 1 month old I mean he is a nice friend but he would only tell me his problems not anyone else I had to tell our other friends what was going on with him and it was just to hard on me.
Is this person your "friend"? If yes, then keep in contact. If no, then maybe let it pass for now...
Part of being friends with each other is being able to bear some of their burden for them. As social creatures, we look to others for comfort and support. It's impossible for us, as social creatures, to go through life on our own. The weight of Life itself can be unbearable, but with close friends, it is possible and more doable. Remember that when this person texts you.
Also, just the fact that this person is suicidal is all the more reason to stay in contact. Yeah, it's burdensome at times, but how would you feel in that person's situation? Wouldn't seek someone else out? Whatever decision that person makes in the end is on them (i.e. if they choose to commit suicide). However, the role you play in their life could make a life-or-death difference!
I've tried and then the whole counselor thing started and now we don't talk only at school. I really didn't like talking to him to be honest, it was really stressful.
Idk if it's best for you, but what I would do is explain to them. Like I told my friend that I don't like talking about the hard stuff all the time, like it's ok once in a while but to not just dump everything on me because it's really stressful and he understood.
ForgottenAngel1
Otaku Legend | Posted 03/05/10 | Reply
@howayoru:
Yup ^.^
howayoru
Grand Otaku | Posted 03/05/10 | Reply
@ForgottenAngel1:
that's good for you then.. ^^
-yoru
ForgottenAngel1
Otaku Legend | Posted 03/05/10 | Reply
@howayoru:
Well he stopped txting me so its good now I guess he talks to my other friend.
howayoru
Grand Otaku | Posted 03/04/10 | Reply
(1)oh my.. why don't you just ignore him?
that is, if you really are that desperate.
if you ignore him, he might not bother you anymore or it may just get worse.. he might bother you even more.. so you have to make sure not to make him hope that you'll still be there for him.
(2)but if you're selfless enough to still care about how he feels, then why not try to close your eyes and put yourself in his shoe.. try to see what he sees, try to feel how he feels, try to forget that you are you and try to pretend to be him..
.. how does it feels like? that no one understands you? that you have only one person you trust? then how would you feel when she suddenly tells you that she doesn't even care? would you be hurt? yes you will.. but you don't want her to know right? cause you have to act strong.. and try not to bother her anymore..
but then again, if he's really your friend, he'll understand..
those are the possible outcomes of your actions (that I could think of)..
make a step,
and choose the right choice,
everything is up to you.
Have a wonderful night..
-yoru
ForgottenAngel1
Otaku Legend | Posted 03/01/10 | Reply
@Yammy Riyalgo:
o.k thank you
Yammy Riyalgo
Otaku Legend | Posted 03/01/10 | Reply
@ForgottenAngel1:
I see. Tell him you appreciate his being able to confide in you, for that is what it truly sounds like. It seems as though he is comfortable to come to you about his problems. That's part of being friends or making friends - bearing some of their burden. However, I DO understand your point of view. Tell him that it's a lot right now and to maybe hold off on some of those pressing matters he seems to relay to you frequently. I don't think there is anything wrong with saying that. Just be kind about it.
ForgottenAngel1
Otaku Legend | Posted 03/01/10 | Reply
@Yammy Riyalgo:
he is a friends but he is not a close friend and he started to put the weight on me when our friendship was like 1 month old I mean he is a nice friend but he would only tell me his problems not anyone else I had to tell our other friends what was going on with him and it was just to hard on me.
ForgottenAngel1
Otaku Legend | Posted 03/01/10 | Reply
@angelsu:
o.k thank you so much.
Yammy Riyalgo
Otaku Legend | Posted 02/28/10 | Reply
((Out of Character = OOC))
Is this person your "friend"? If yes, then keep in contact. If no, then maybe let it pass for now...
Part of being friends with each other is being able to bear some of their burden for them. As social creatures, we look to others for comfort and support. It's impossible for us, as social creatures, to go through life on our own. The weight of Life itself can be unbearable, but with close friends, it is possible and more doable. Remember that when this person texts you.
Also, just the fact that this person is suicidal is all the more reason to stay in contact. Yeah, it's burdensome at times, but how would you feel in that person's situation? Wouldn't seek someone else out? Whatever decision that person makes in the end is on them (i.e. if they choose to commit suicide). However, the role you play in their life could make a life-or-death difference!
angelsu
Eternal Angel (Otaku Eternal) | Posted 02/28/10 | Reply
@ForgottenAngel1:
Then I guess tell him, hey I can't really talk to you its not that I don't care but, I just don't need this stuff in my life.
ForgottenAngel1
Otaku Legend | Posted 02/27/10 | Reply
@angelsu:
I've tried and then the whole counselor thing started and now we don't talk only at school. I really didn't like talking to him to be honest, it was really stressful.
angelsu
Eternal Angel (Otaku Eternal) | Posted 02/27/10 | Reply
Idk if it's best for you, but what I would do is explain to them. Like I told my friend that I don't like talking about the hard stuff all the time, like it's ok once in a while but to not just dump everything on me because it's really stressful and he understood.
So maybe you could do that?