She's only wanting me to move in. Right now I think I got to an agreement to have me stay, so I am just hoping she follows through. Thanks for your advice. I'll make an update soon.
I can see all of the points that you made very well and I understand why you're having issues deciding.
First, know this. You did not fail. Perhaps you let yourself down, perhaps you didn't make choices you're totally happy with, and things didn't go exactly how you wished for it too, but that does not mean you failed. We all have our ups and downs in life. We all reach a point where we need to depend on others, so please don't feel that way. Even if you view this as a "failure", accepting a "failure" is not a bad thing. It takes a lot of strength and courage to accept it. Cheer up, OK?
I can imagine saying "yes" is difficult because of your friend. Is there a chance he can move in with you and your sister? Does he literally have no where else to go? It's quite unfortunate that you both happen to be in such a rough place at the same time. Talk to her about your friend, maybe she will understand and show him some compassion for him as well.
I don't know what else to say, besides keep hanging in there. If he has somewhere else to go, move in with her, at least long enough to get your life in order and get you back on your feet so you can help your friend if he still needs it. It he doesn't, talk to her about your friend and see if she's willing to take him in, too.
I'm sure you'll find the right answer sooner or later. Good luck!
Could you talk to her about letting him move in with you both? Even if he lives in the basement? Because if your having problems and moving would help you, it would be better for you that way. And it wouldn't be you failed, everyone needs help sometime so don't worry about it. But on the other hand, he needs help to. I can see both of your sides. I'm sorry that must not have been much help
Ich such dich unter jedem Stein Wo bist du Ich schlaf mit einem Messer ein
Morbid Dollie
Strawberry (Otaku Eternal) | Posted 07/20/12 | Reply
@HametsuKuro:
I hope she follows through, too. What about your friend? Will he be alright?
-those with the biggest hearts hurt the most
HametsuKuro
The Turning Tide (Otaku Eternal) | Posted 07/20/12 | Reply
@Morbid Dollie:
She's only wanting me to move in. Right now I think I got to an agreement to have me stay, so I am just hoping she follows through. Thanks for your advice. I'll make an update soon.
Morbid Dollie
Strawberry (Otaku Eternal) | Posted 07/20/12 | Reply
I can see all of the points that you made very well and I understand why you're having issues deciding.
First, know this. You did not fail. Perhaps you let yourself down, perhaps you didn't make choices you're totally happy with, and things didn't go exactly how you wished for it too, but that does not mean you failed. We all have our ups and downs in life. We all reach a point where we need to depend on others, so please don't feel that way. Even if you view this as a "failure", accepting a "failure" is not a bad thing. It takes a lot of strength and courage to accept it. Cheer up, OK?
I can imagine saying "yes" is difficult because of your friend. Is there a chance he can move in with you and your sister? Does he literally have no where else to go? It's quite unfortunate that you both happen to be in such a rough place at the same time. Talk to her about your friend, maybe she will understand and show him some compassion for him as well.
I don't know what else to say, besides keep hanging in there. If he has somewhere else to go, move in with her, at least long enough to get your life in order and get you back on your feet so you can help your friend if he still needs it. It he doesn't, talk to her about your friend and see if she's willing to take him in, too.
I'm sure you'll find the right answer sooner or later. Good luck!
-those with the biggest hearts hurt the most
XkeyofdestinyX
Psychopath (Grand Otaku) | Posted 07/20/12 | Reply
Could you talk to her about letting him move in with you both? Even if he lives in the basement? Because if your having problems and moving would help you, it would be better for you that way. And it wouldn't be you failed, everyone needs help sometime so don't worry about it. But on the other hand, he needs help to. I can see both of your sides. I'm sorry that must not have been much help
Ich such dich unter jedem Stein Wo bist du Ich schlaf mit einem Messer ein