Oh! Yes, You're right !
I don't have to pleased people like them, So I will keep a distance between them, But If they change I would like us to be friends too.
I think they'll be nice too if they change :D
Thank you so much ~
On the Jazz! (Otaku Eternal) | Posted 02/26/12 | Reply
Without knowing your friends, or seeing you guys interact, I couldn't really say whether it's a misunderstanding or not. It might very well be. Since you strive so much to not be alone, it could all be a misunderstanding. But if you want my opinion? Like I said I couldn't say for sure without knowing these people. But I think they are taking advantage of your wanting to please other people nature. Don't let them push you around like that sweetie. I would say, if you have to, avoid them. No one needs friends that are only out for themselves. Is there anyone else you could hang around?
hehe ur very welcome. One more thing... with your help stratergy.
Don't feel to upset if you don't make an impact on them by helping ok. You can only help if they actually want the help. Its a harsh truth... but it's the truth none of the less. You may see somebody needs the help, but they may not feel they need it. If this is the case and nothing changes and they stay the same, don't feel guilty. Cause you did all you could for that person ok. Sometimes people are like that though hunni. It's not your fault... it's life. So if they don't want the help, just sweep it under the rug for the time being... chances are... they will come to you when they are ready for your help anyway. So don't get upset.
Life has a funni way of turning itself around, and some things that people need to learn on they're individual journeys through life, maybe hard... but it's they're task to learn it. Only you can do a certain amount for them to help them. They must do the rest. This part of being they're for people is hard. But it does get easier.
Once you get the hang of it. You will see that things will turn out well for the people that you helped in the end. Cause they knew you were their to rely on if they needed it. Just having that gives them the strength to try.
So don't lose hope if they don't take your help in the first off ok... And always remember this golden rule.
You don't need people like them. I know how you feel, and it hurts a lot. So just avoid them altogether, cuz if you stand there and forgive them, they'll probably do the same thing.
Feel better, Twin-Chan, everything will be alright. <3
Wow ! Thank you really ! Your concern is highly appreciated :D
Thank you so muchh ~
Yes, They were exactly what you decribe. (but I hope they will not end up being unfortunate but Mostly were ending up like that )
Yes! I think tommorow I will do that, Then I'll go stay away from them and then find my group , But I think it will be more good idea If I can influence them :D ( you know I have this kinda good skill in speech and talk , but Im too shy and scared to speak up to them, )
Thank you so much ! for sharing your experience and thoughts ! It give me enough confidence to confront them tomorrow, Instead of me being influence by them, I think I will try to influence them for better instead :D
I hope I can seek your advice next time too .
Thank you so so much :DD
God bless you ~
Last edited by jenuza at 7:12:24 AM CST on February 26, 2012.
Next time, tell them to do what they need to do themselves and stop being lazy. If they say fine I will but don't coming hanging with us... then you will know for sure what the answer to ur question is. I know how you feel... I was exactly the same at school. It's hard to feel like you don't fit in... it upsets you. But... I decided to do just this one day. I got that answer. And I didn't let it faze me, I found a bunch of 'misfits' who happened to be the best people in the world, and we are all friends to this day... I we are all either 24 or 25 now, and we are all still as thick as thieves. We all got bullied, and yet we were all kool in our own right to. We were the misfits. You will have them at your school to. They usually end up meeting at the end up meeting and making a group after the 1st year of secondry school, when you just turn 12 going on to 13. When u will find this group u will find that you are worth something, and the best part is, they will treat you with the respect u derserve because they will understand you. which will mean... you will know longer be a 'missfit' You need to find the amazing person you are inside and ignore the arseholes at school that keep dictating you are a 'misfit' because you really arn't... you just haven't found the right group yet... and whatever you do... if they ask you to smoke just to fit in... say no... your worth more then they're 'coolness' cause trust me, they are not kool. They trouble makers to the adult eye and most of them regret the fact they tried a fag when they grow up to.
And what will make you feel even better... is that all the 'kool' people that were in my year have had kids at the age of 17, which were not planned. Have no jobs, have no other half and actually smoke and take drugs now. and all us 'misfits' have jobs, have a stable relationship (or are looking for a relationship), are married and waited to have children when they were ready after they had been married. So really, a misfit is possibly a good bet... I'm not saying all smokers are bad news... alot have just tried it to fit in to... but the ones that were the ring leaders and actually tried dope etc cause they wanted to... well those are the ones who don't have much as they grow up. So think sensible and don't let them make you do anything you don't really want to do. Stick to your own guns and show them ur strength
jenuza
Otakuite | Posted 02/29/12 | Reply
@omnia1:
Yes! XD Were same :DD
omnia1
Grand Otaku | Posted 02/28/12 | Reply
@jenuza:
lol awww... thanku ^_^ hehe and so are you x x
Omnia1
omnia1
Grand Otaku | Posted 02/28/12 | Reply
@jenuza:
lol awww... thanku ^_^ hehe and so are you x x
Omnia1
jenuza
Otakuite | Posted 02/27/12 | Reply
@omnia1:
Your so nice ! sis :DD
jenuza
Otakuite | Posted 02/27/12 | Reply
@Dark Phoenix:
.. oh! I totaly forgot that people don't change easily Thank you!! ~~ I'll more aware. (but Im still looking forward to it)
Yes! I'll take care of my myself, Thank youu! Also you too take care always :D Thank you again
God bless you!
omnia1
Grand Otaku | Posted 02/27/12 | Reply
@jenuza:
your very welcome hehe ^_^
Omnia1
Dark Phoenix
On the Jazz! (Otaku Eternal) | Posted 02/27/12 | Reply
@jenuza:
Everyone deserves a second chance I think. ^_^ So you never know. But still, take care of yourself, people don't change that easily.
Last edited by Dark Phoenix at 9:00:08 AM CST on February 27, 2012.
jenuza
Otakuite | Posted 02/27/12 | Reply
@Dark Phoenix:
Oh! Yes, You're right !
I don't have to pleased people like them, So I will keep a distance between them, But If they change I would like us to be friends too.
I think they'll be nice too if they change :D
Thank you so much ~
jenuza
Otakuite | Posted 02/27/12 | Reply
@omnia1:
Yes yes :DD I will keep that in mind !
Thank youu ~~
Your the best :DD
JanetChan
Otaku Legend | Posted 02/26/12 | Reply
@jenuza:
Awwww I'm glad you feel better! That makes me happy desu! <3
Can you be any sweeter? Your sucha darling, Twin-Chan, I'm so happy I met you!
Dark Phoenix
On the Jazz! (Otaku Eternal) | Posted 02/26/12 | Reply
Without knowing your friends, or seeing you guys interact, I couldn't really say whether it's a misunderstanding or not. It might very well be. Since you strive so much to not be alone, it could all be a misunderstanding. But if you want my opinion? Like I said I couldn't say for sure without knowing these people. But I think they are taking advantage of your wanting to please other people nature. Don't let them push you around like that sweetie. I would say, if you have to, avoid them. No one needs friends that are only out for themselves. Is there anyone else you could hang around?
omnia1
Grand Otaku | Posted 02/26/12 | Reply
@jenuza:
hehe ur very welcome. One more thing... with your help stratergy.
Don't feel to upset if you don't make an impact on them by helping ok. You can only help if they actually want the help. Its a harsh truth... but it's the truth none of the less. You may see somebody needs the help, but they may not feel they need it. If this is the case and nothing changes and they stay the same, don't feel guilty. Cause you did all you could for that person ok. Sometimes people are like that though hunni. It's not your fault... it's life. So if they don't want the help, just sweep it under the rug for the time being... chances are... they will come to you when they are ready for your help anyway. So don't get upset.
Life has a funni way of turning itself around, and some things that people need to learn on they're individual journeys through life, maybe hard... but it's they're task to learn it. Only you can do a certain amount for them to help them. They must do the rest. This part of being they're for people is hard. But it does get easier.
Once you get the hang of it. You will see that things will turn out well for the people that you helped in the end. Cause they knew you were their to rely on if they needed it. Just having that gives them the strength to try.
So don't lose hope if they don't take your help in the first off ok... And always remember this golden rule.
Omnia1
jenuza
Otakuite | Posted 02/26/12 | Reply
@omnia1:
Thank youu ~~
I'll always be here too . I will help you in any way! I'd be glad to return the favor
Than you so much :DD
omnia1
Grand Otaku | Posted 02/26/12 | Reply
@jenuza:
your always very welcome ^_^ And I am always here to help hehe
Omnia1
jenuza
Otakuite | Posted 02/26/12 | Reply
@JanetChan:
uhh :"> I feel better now Twin chan ~~ Thanks to you and to omnia1
the two of you we're good persons :D Thank you for helping me .
I don't have to worry If they ignore me . I have my friends here,
Not only friends but BEST friends :DD
And My Twin chann ~ :D
JanetChan
Otaku Legend | Posted 02/26/12 | Reply
You don't need people like them. I know how you feel, and it hurts a lot. So just avoid them altogether, cuz if you stand there and forgive them, they'll probably do the same thing.
Feel better, Twin-Chan, everything will be alright. <3
jenuza
Otakuite | Posted 02/26/12 | Reply
@omnia1:
Wow ! Thank you really ! Your concern is highly appreciated :D
Thank you so muchh ~
Yes, They were exactly what you decribe. (but I hope they will not end up being unfortunate but Mostly were ending up like that )
Yes! I think tommorow I will do that, Then I'll go stay away from them and then find my group , But I think it will be more good idea If I can influence them :D ( you know I have this kinda good skill in speech and talk , but Im too shy and scared to speak up to them, )
Thank you so much ! for sharing your experience and thoughts ! It give me enough confidence to confront them tomorrow, Instead of me being influence by them, I think I will try to influence them for better instead :D
I hope I can seek your advice next time too .
Thank you so so much :DD
God bless you ~
Last edited by jenuza at 7:12:24 AM CST on February 26, 2012.
omnia1
Grand Otaku | Posted 02/26/12 | Reply
Next time, tell them to do what they need to do themselves and stop being lazy. If they say fine I will but don't coming hanging with us... then you will know for sure what the answer to ur question is. I know how you feel... I was exactly the same at school. It's hard to feel like you don't fit in... it upsets you. But... I decided to do just this one day. I got that answer. And I didn't let it faze me, I found a bunch of 'misfits' who happened to be the best people in the world, and we are all friends to this day... I we are all either 24 or 25 now, and we are all still as thick as thieves. We all got bullied, and yet we were all kool in our own right to. We were the misfits. You will have them at your school to. They usually end up meeting at the end up meeting and making a group after the 1st year of secondry school, when you just turn 12 going on to 13. When u will find this group u will find that you are worth something, and the best part is, they will treat you with the respect u derserve because they will understand you. which will mean... you will know longer be a 'missfit' You need to find the amazing person you are inside and ignore the arseholes at school that keep dictating you are a 'misfit' because you really arn't... you just haven't found the right group yet... and whatever you do... if they ask you to smoke just to fit in... say no... your worth more then they're 'coolness' cause trust me, they are not kool. They trouble makers to the adult eye and most of them regret the fact they tried a fag when they grow up to.
And what will make you feel even better... is that all the 'kool' people that were in my year have had kids at the age of 17, which were not planned. Have no jobs, have no other half and actually smoke and take drugs now. and all us 'misfits' have jobs, have a stable relationship (or are looking for a relationship), are married and waited to have children when they were ready after they had been married. So really, a misfit is possibly a good bet... I'm not saying all smokers are bad news... alot have just tried it to fit in to... but the ones that were the ring leaders and actually tried dope etc cause they wanted to... well those are the ones who don't have much as they grow up. So think sensible and don't let them make you do anything you don't really want to do. Stick to your own guns and show them ur strength
Ok
You can do it. I believe in you.
Omnia1