I think I actually learned that lesson mostly from talking to my dad. Basically, my dad grew up afraid to be noticed. He only wanted to blend in and be a part of the crowd. But both of his parents are admittedly kind of weird. My grandma is really sweet, but she treats everyone like a little kid. She acts super-optimistic all the time over every little thing. And my grandpa has no people skills and a really bad temper. Here's the thing about him. He was raised in an abusive family and he had to grow up fast and learn to get by. He did well and the choices he made were a huge improvement over his father's, but he still never learned how to be social because he was too busy learning how to be a survivor. So basically, my dad always felt painfully embarrassed of his family and now he has these strict 'rules' about what's 'right' and 'wrong'. Basically they're like the rigid rules of society, except my dad never knows when to bend them. He just wants to make everything be this certain way so that nothing is 'abnormal'. This frustrated me very much growing up because life isn't like that. Sometimes for certain circumstances you have to bend the rules or just figure out what's right for you, while my dad always insisted on cramming every situation into these sets of rules. It took me a long time to learn that I can't blame him for that because he never meant to hurt anyone, he's just still trying to sort out what life means. Once I learned to apply that to him, I started to see it more with the other people around me.
As for the negativity thing, there have been times in my life when I was like that too, and even if I tried I couldn't find anything good. And I do know what it's like to have people give up on me. Even my best friend, she's stuck with me for a long time, but sometimes she gets frustrated and she acts like if I would just act more positive everything would get better. Definitely frustrating, I know it's hard to make people understand things, especially when they can only see it their way and don't want to listen to yours.
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Happiness can be found, even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light.
It can definitely be that way. What sucks for me is that in the end I can't really hate them for it, since everyone behaves the way they do because of their own struggles and because of the way they see the world. Remembering that, it's hard for me to stay mad at even my parents. Mostly I just feel bad for them. I don't know, though, that's just my mood today.
Happiness can be found, even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light.
True. Unless you're free from worry about anything. But that could only happen if I didn't care about anyone, because I always worry about bad things happening to the people I know.
Happiness can be found, even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light.
Sarasface
Ethereal Wanderer (Otaku Eternal) | Posted 11/17/13 | Reply
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Definitely. And no matter what we do to the Earth, nature is still trying to reclaim it.
Happiness can be found, even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light.
Sarasface
Ethereal Wanderer (Otaku Eternal) | Posted 11/16/13 | Reply
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I think I actually learned that lesson mostly from talking to my dad. Basically, my dad grew up afraid to be noticed. He only wanted to blend in and be a part of the crowd. But both of his parents are admittedly kind of weird. My grandma is really sweet, but she treats everyone like a little kid. She acts super-optimistic all the time over every little thing. And my grandpa has no people skills and a really bad temper. Here's the thing about him. He was raised in an abusive family and he had to grow up fast and learn to get by. He did well and the choices he made were a huge improvement over his father's, but he still never learned how to be social because he was too busy learning how to be a survivor. So basically, my dad always felt painfully embarrassed of his family and now he has these strict 'rules' about what's 'right' and 'wrong'. Basically they're like the rigid rules of society, except my dad never knows when to bend them. He just wants to make everything be this certain way so that nothing is 'abnormal'. This frustrated me very much growing up because life isn't like that. Sometimes for certain circumstances you have to bend the rules or just figure out what's right for you, while my dad always insisted on cramming every situation into these sets of rules. It took me a long time to learn that I can't blame him for that because he never meant to hurt anyone, he's just still trying to sort out what life means. Once I learned to apply that to him, I started to see it more with the other people around me.
As for the negativity thing, there have been times in my life when I was like that too, and even if I tried I couldn't find anything good. And I do know what it's like to have people give up on me. Even my best friend, she's stuck with me for a long time, but sometimes she gets frustrated and she acts like if I would just act more positive everything would get better. Definitely frustrating, I know it's hard to make people understand things, especially when they can only see it their way and don't want to listen to yours.
Last edited by Sarasface at 11:26:05 PM EST on November 16, 2013.
Happiness can be found, even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light.
Sarasface
Ethereal Wanderer (Otaku Eternal) | Posted 11/15/13 | Reply
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It can definitely be that way. What sucks for me is that in the end I can't really hate them for it, since everyone behaves the way they do because of their own struggles and because of the way they see the world. Remembering that, it's hard for me to stay mad at even my parents. Mostly I just feel bad for them. I don't know, though, that's just my mood today.
Happiness can be found, even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light.
Sarasface
Ethereal Wanderer (Otaku Eternal) | Posted 11/13/13 | Reply
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True. Unless you're free from worry about anything. But that could only happen if I didn't care about anyone, because I always worry about bad things happening to the people I know.
Happiness can be found, even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light.
Hifsa
Otaku Legend | Posted 11/13/13 | Reply
@Sarasface:
Ahhh, it never ends *sighs*
Sarasface
Ethereal Wanderer (Otaku Eternal) | Posted 11/13/13 | Reply
@Hifsa:
Still have to put together a presentation.
Happiness can be found, even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light.
Hifsa
Otaku Legend | Posted 11/13/13 | Reply
You must be so tired my friend! Just chill now ^^