That's horrible. I'am sorry this is happening.
Listen, what you did was very good. You confronted the guy and told him exactly what needed to be said. Of course, his response to you was wrong. Girlfriends do not have to give everything their' boyfriends want, and if he wants her to respect him, than he needs to start respecting her. We girls don't owe anyone anything, and that's that.
You were right about the girl not being old enough to handle the situation herself. It seems that she's just afraid of anyone telling authority about the situation. She needs to tell her parents about what happened. She needs to leave her boyfriend and stay away from him. If she does not prepare herself, there is a good chance she's going to end up getting raped and abused by him. She deserves a better guy, and he's not her perfect man. He's just an abusive guy who thinks men are superior over women (like seriously, what is wrong with today's society?).
Starting to date at 14 years of age is very young to start dating, especially if it's going to get serious. Once this problem is solved (with a good ending too), I suggest she should stay away from dating for a while. If she's going to date, she needs a close friend/family member to give her guidance about dating.
I think what you can do now is encourage her to tell her parents and keep on supporting her. Right now, both you and your friend can prevent a possible danger from happening. You can continue to be there for your friend and your friend needs to make a choice. If you have her parents' contacts, I suggest you tell them about what happened between her and her boyfriend. If you don't, just give her advice on what to do next.
You guys have to act quick, though. I bet this boyfriend is probably going to give it another shot at your friend... Possibly soon too.
I pray that everything turns out okay at the end.
Last edited by NinjaBluez at 3:39:12 PM EDT on August 6, 2014.
That's just horrible. I'm very sorry that's happening to your friend. To be honest, and personally, I really think that 14 is a tad bit too young to start making dating decisions, especially if you're planning on making it a serious relationship. Young girls at that age can be easily taken advantage of, if they don't have much experience or without proper advice or guidance from someone close to them.
Even still, it seems like over half of the male population has that "women owe me this" mentality, and I'm so sick of it. We women don't owe guys shit. It really makes me upset to see that the abuse rate in relationships has gone up as it has, especially when some of my close family just got out of horrible situation not too long ago about this.
You did the right thing standing up for your friend, and I agree with you 100% that a 14 year old is not old enough to know what to do in a situation like that. A "boy" like that isn't fit to be with any girl, until he can stop thinking like he owns them. A girl like her deserves way better than that and an actual "man", and I know that she's aware of that.
I really hope your friend is able to get out of that god-awful relationship and fast before it escalates into something far worse. I also hope that she loses that stubbornness and listens to what you have to say, since you're trying your best to help her.
Again, I'm really sorry that's happening and I wish her the best~
You live in Missouri too?
Oh awesome, it's nice to find others who also live in the same state as you! cx
Last edited by ElementalNinja at 2:42:43 PM EDT on August 6, 2014.
NinjaBluez
Otakuite++ | Posted 08/06/14 | Reply
That's horrible. I'am sorry this is happening.
Listen, what you did was very good. You confronted the guy and told him exactly what needed to be said. Of course, his response to you was wrong. Girlfriends do not have to give everything their' boyfriends want, and if he wants her to respect him, than he needs to start respecting her. We girls don't owe anyone anything, and that's that.
You were right about the girl not being old enough to handle the situation herself. It seems that she's just afraid of anyone telling authority about the situation. She needs to tell her parents about what happened. She needs to leave her boyfriend and stay away from him. If she does not prepare herself, there is a good chance she's going to end up getting raped and abused by him. She deserves a better guy, and he's not her perfect man. He's just an abusive guy who thinks men are superior over women (like seriously, what is wrong with today's society?).
Starting to date at 14 years of age is very young to start dating, especially if it's going to get serious. Once this problem is solved (with a good ending too), I suggest she should stay away from dating for a while. If she's going to date, she needs a close friend/family member to give her guidance about dating.
I think what you can do now is encourage her to tell her parents and keep on supporting her. Right now, both you and your friend can prevent a possible danger from happening. You can continue to be there for your friend and your friend needs to make a choice. If you have her parents' contacts, I suggest you tell them about what happened between her and her boyfriend. If you don't, just give her advice on what to do next.
You guys have to act quick, though. I bet this boyfriend is probably going to give it another shot at your friend... Possibly soon too.
I pray that everything turns out okay at the end.
Last edited by NinjaBluez at 3:39:12 PM EDT on August 6, 2014.
ElementalNinja
Daemon Devourer (Otaku Eternal) | Posted 08/06/14 | Reply
That's just horrible. I'm very sorry that's happening to your friend. To be honest, and personally, I really think that 14 is a tad bit too young to start making dating decisions, especially if you're planning on making it a serious relationship. Young girls at that age can be easily taken advantage of, if they don't have much experience or without proper advice or guidance from someone close to them.
Even still, it seems like over half of the male population has that "women owe me this" mentality, and I'm so sick of it. We women don't owe guys shit. It really makes me upset to see that the abuse rate in relationships has gone up as it has, especially when some of my close family just got out of horrible situation not too long ago about this.
You did the right thing standing up for your friend, and I agree with you 100% that a 14 year old is not old enough to know what to do in a situation like that. A "boy" like that isn't fit to be with any girl, until he can stop thinking like he owns them. A girl like her deserves way better than that and an actual "man", and I know that she's aware of that.
I really hope your friend is able to get out of that god-awful relationship and fast before it escalates into something far worse. I also hope that she loses that stubbornness and listens to what you have to say, since you're trying your best to help her.
Again, I'm really sorry that's happening and I wish her the best~
You live in Missouri too?
Oh awesome, it's nice to find others who also live in the same state as you! cx
Last edited by ElementalNinja at 2:42:43 PM EDT on August 6, 2014.
MewChero
Neko Girl (Otaku Eternal) | Posted 08/06/14 | Reply
She needs to:
1. Leave him. Break up with him.
2. Tell her parents