Thats some great advice! Its true, your parents and others are sterotyping your interests as well, and its up to you to show them that it isn't all that way.
i know how that like, and the best advice i can give for you is to start shoving manga and anime that ISN'T like that in their face. that's what i had to do; there was a point in time where my parents thought that all anime/manga was violent and about killing and so on and so forth. so what did i do? i starting showing them "the prince of tennis" or "cardcaptor sakura" and so on and so forth to prove to them that their sterotyep wasn't true. now, it wasn't something that worked in a flash, and YOU have to show interest in those kinds of animes, because more than anything else, their not sterotyping the anime/manga, but their sterotyping your likes and dislikes. once i started showing interest in animes that didn't have blood spurting in every episode, they were pretty okay with it. hope this helps.
Thats too bad that your dad can't even accept that Speed Racer is anime. Its easy to get into those sterotypes and ideas though, I used to not understand why people would like anime, big weird eyes and all. This was when I was about 15 and Tenchi was just coming onto Cartoon Network. Before that, I'd watched a bit of Sailor Moon (thought it was okay, but not addicting) and some Dragon Ball Z (pretty boring I thought). My brother and my cousin sat me down and made me watch about 10 episodes of Tenchi in a row, and I was hooked.
Sometimes it just takes the right show. And unfortunatly, if you've had a bad experience, it can be really hard to try something a second time. Just think if you've ever gotten sick from eating food at a restraunt, or even if you've just been sick already and had a certian food, the way that your brain will associate being sick with that food and can keep you from eating it for a quite a while, even if you loved it before.
Death Note is a tricky one. I might give it to a ten year old that I knew, if I was going to be around to discuss it with them. Its the kind of manga that could be good and interesting to some older preteens (10-12), if the parents know what its about and have read it themselves. But no, in that case, just liking Kira cause he kills people is probably saying that his parents don't know what he's reading/watching.
I used to be a nanny, and the 10 year old wanted to read pretty much every manga I owned. And I owned a lot. Now, I put my foot down on a few titles, but most I had to decide on a case by case basis. Sailor Moon is fine, until you get towards the end when there are lesbians. I asked her mom if she cared that there were lesbians in the book, and mom didn't are in the slightest. Thought it was good for her to get lots of exposure to differnt things. A differnt book she wanted to read was Ceres, which isn't too bad, until you look at the fact that everyone one wants to have sex with Ceres to control her. So I asked my girl if she knew what rape was. She said no. I said that I didn't think this book was good for her yet. First thing she does is goes and looks up what rape is. Comes back and gives me a definition, I quiz her a bit to make sure she actually understands what it is and isn't just repeating what she read, I decided she now understands the concept. Ceres is probably one of her favorite mangas now. But I wouldn't have let her read that if I wasn't around to answer questions and if I hadn't already read and watched it all.
I thought Sailor Moon was fourteen? But I don't really read Sailor Moon much. Still, things like Disney movies already idealize love at first sight anyways, so I don't figure Sailor Moon from that point of veiw than most western media.
You are right about the sailor moon thing about how it shows some nudity while in transformation but that also goes for tokyo mew mew too. In the manga the main character gets married to her boyfriend that she JUST started dating at 11!!!! but of course that has nothing to do with this but it does set a bad example for children that are young and are dating already...
I agree with haseo, parents should be more aware of what their children read. Inspecially if what their children are reading includes content that is WAY inapropreate and/or has a naked guy on the front (refer to absolute boyfriend) parents should also make sure that the animes their children watch/read isnt violent if they are 12 or under (or an older age and under) because 1. you dont want children being tramitized and having nightmares and 2. we dont want them growing up being a phycodic maniac!
I find this the most helpful by far (from a teen's view, of course). Because of something my dad stumbled on in the past, he now despises all anime and manga, labeling them all "cartoon porn", and makes fun of everything anime and Japanese every time I watch it somewhere other than in my room. He doesn't even admit that Speed Racers, his favorite childhood show, is an anime! Though my dad will probably take me to an R-rated movie if I asked, he probably won't buy me anime. My mom, born and raised in Asia, is a bit more understanding and is usually the one who will allow me to buy manga and anime.
I usually have to keep the anime I watch somewhat secret (at least my Dad). But if they ask to see it I will show them. I read a lot of older teen and mature manga (often for violence, language, and nudity), and while I won't start stripping, become a criminal, or start cussing out someone, they still have their worries as all parents do.
That was really awesome! I totally agree with you. Sometimes parents can be a little troublesome when trying to convince them that anime is not all bad and that it can actually be soemthing to learn from. I think it's a godd thing you made this guide, especially for children with parents that don't really understand anime or anything like it.
My parents and I still have a few confrontations, and i really think that this guide will solve a few of them. Thanks so much for writing it! I hope that other people got as much use out of this guide as I did! ^^
man, you really know how to sum this stuff up in an easy way. that's definitely a good thing, cuz your guides have helped my mom to lighten up about the anime and manga I read. so thank you, this is great
if there was ever a person to describe the way my parents like to handle manga, anime, and movies in general, it's you. while they may be a bit more strict on certain issues (nudity being one of them) they have lightened up and take in consideration my age and the type of book and so on and so forth.
which is good. there is nothing wrong with that. i can tell you a bad example of parenting when i recently went into a bookstore about two days ago. i was looking at manga when a boy about the age of max nine walked in. first he was looking at naruto and screaming over it like most anime novices, which is fine, but it was when he started to squeal over death note that i got a bit worried. now granted, i'm a huge death note fan, BUT i don't think it's a show that a nine year old should be watching and/or reading. why? because of his comment right afterwards of "o man, i really like this guy [he's pointing over at light] it would be really cool if i could just kill people by writing their names down in a book." see, this is why people were a bit scared of airing death note in america. why? because parents don't example things to their kids like they should. i was raised that murdering people is bad (unless in the name of the law, but that should be used only if nessesary), profanity shouldn't be used if possible, and you have to be able to distungish the difference between fiction and fact. and while that may seem like a form of common sense, it's not common sense at all. in fact, in my sixteen years of living, i've found that very few people actually have common sense, that nine year old boy being one of them. and while he's comment may have been made in jest, most of the time, what we say in jest is 90% of the time what we really mean.
so to sum it all up (sorry for the rant XP) i agree with your statements that parents should watch what their children are reading and watching, because that's how they grow up. simple as that.
CassieR
Otakuite+ | Posted 08/13/08 | Reply
@haseo luver92:
Thats some great advice! Its true, your parents and others are sterotyping your interests as well, and its up to you to show them that it isn't all that way.
haseo luver92
Otaku Legend | Posted 08/11/08 | Reply
@Zakuro Rose:
i know how that like, and the best advice i can give for you is to start shoving manga and anime that ISN'T like that in their face. that's what i had to do; there was a point in time where my parents thought that all anime/manga was violent and about killing and so on and so forth. so what did i do? i starting showing them "the prince of tennis" or "cardcaptor sakura" and so on and so forth to prove to them that their sterotyep wasn't true. now, it wasn't something that worked in a flash, and YOU have to show interest in those kinds of animes, because more than anything else, their not sterotyping the anime/manga, but their sterotyping your likes and dislikes. once i started showing interest in animes that didn't have blood spurting in every episode, they were pretty okay with it. hope this helps.
haseo
Zakuro Rose
Otaku Eternal | Posted 08/03/08 | Reply
@CassieR:
Alright. Thank you very much for the advice.
CassieR
Otakuite+ | Posted 08/02/08 | Reply
@Zakuro Rose:
Thats too bad that your dad can't even accept that Speed Racer is anime. Its easy to get into those sterotypes and ideas though, I used to not understand why people would like anime, big weird eyes and all. This was when I was about 15 and Tenchi was just coming onto Cartoon Network. Before that, I'd watched a bit of Sailor Moon (thought it was okay, but not addicting) and some Dragon Ball Z (pretty boring I thought). My brother and my cousin sat me down and made me watch about 10 episodes of Tenchi in a row, and I was hooked.
Sometimes it just takes the right show. And unfortunatly, if you've had a bad experience, it can be really hard to try something a second time. Just think if you've ever gotten sick from eating food at a restraunt, or even if you've just been sick already and had a certian food, the way that your brain will associate being sick with that food and can keep you from eating it for a quite a while, even if you loved it before.
CassieR
Otakuite+ | Posted 08/02/08 | Reply
@haseo luver92:
Death Note is a tricky one. I might give it to a ten year old that I knew, if I was going to be around to discuss it with them. Its the kind of manga that could be good and interesting to some older preteens (10-12), if the parents know what its about and have read it themselves. But no, in that case, just liking Kira cause he kills people is probably saying that his parents don't know what he's reading/watching.
I used to be a nanny, and the 10 year old wanted to read pretty much every manga I owned. And I owned a lot. Now, I put my foot down on a few titles, but most I had to decide on a case by case basis. Sailor Moon is fine, until you get towards the end when there are lesbians. I asked her mom if she cared that there were lesbians in the book, and mom didn't are in the slightest. Thought it was good for her to get lots of exposure to differnt things. A differnt book she wanted to read was Ceres, which isn't too bad, until you look at the fact that everyone one wants to have sex with Ceres to control her. So I asked my girl if she knew what rape was. She said no. I said that I didn't think this book was good for her yet. First thing she does is goes and looks up what rape is. Comes back and gives me a definition, I quiz her a bit to make sure she actually understands what it is and isn't just repeating what she read, I decided she now understands the concept. Ceres is probably one of her favorite mangas now. But I wouldn't have let her read that if I wasn't around to answer questions and if I hadn't already read and watched it all.
CassieR
Otakuite+ | Posted 08/02/08 | Reply
@dreamkitty:
I thought Sailor Moon was fourteen? But I don't really read Sailor Moon much. Still, things like Disney movies already idealize love at first sight anyways, so I don't figure Sailor Moon from that point of veiw than most western media.
dreamkitty
Otakuite+ | Posted 08/01/08 | Reply
You are right about the sailor moon thing about how it shows some nudity while in transformation but that also goes for tokyo mew mew too. In the manga the main character gets married to her boyfriend that she JUST started dating at 11!!!! but of course that has nothing to do with this but it does set a bad example for children that are young and are dating already...
I agree with haseo, parents should be more aware of what their children read. Inspecially if what their children are reading includes content that is WAY inapropreate and/or has a naked guy on the front (refer to absolute boyfriend) parents should also make sure that the animes their children watch/read isnt violent if they are 12 or under (or an older age and under) because 1. you dont want children being tramitized and having nightmares and 2. we dont want them growing up being a phycodic maniac!
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Zakuro Rose
Otaku Eternal | Posted 08/01/08 | Reply
@haseo luver92:
I agree with you. I have seen stuff like that too often. (Death Note is unfortunately an internation epidemic of lack of common sense.)
Zakuro Rose
Otaku Eternal | Posted 08/01/08 | Reply
I find this the most helpful by far (from a teen's view, of course). Because of something my dad stumbled on in the past, he now despises all anime and manga, labeling them all "cartoon porn", and makes fun of everything anime and Japanese every time I watch it somewhere other than in my room. He doesn't even admit that Speed Racers, his favorite childhood show, is an anime! Though my dad will probably take me to an R-rated movie if I asked, he probably won't buy me anime. My mom, born and raised in Asia, is a bit more understanding and is usually the one who will allow me to buy manga and anime.
I usually have to keep the anime I watch somewhat secret (at least my Dad). But if they ask to see it I will show them. I read a lot of older teen and mature manga (often for violence, language, and nudity), and while I won't start stripping, become a criminal, or start cussing out someone, they still have their worries as all parents do.
Thanks for the Guide!
miniwolf tribe
Otakuite++ | Posted 07/31/08 | Reply
That was really awesome! I totally agree with you. Sometimes parents can be a little troublesome when trying to convince them that anime is not all bad and that it can actually be soemthing to learn from. I think it's a godd thing you made this guide, especially for children with parents that don't really understand anime or anything like it.
My parents and I still have a few confrontations, and i really think that this guide will solve a few of them. Thanks so much for writing it! I hope that other people got as much use out of this guide as I did! ^^
Love, `~~Miniwolf Tribe~~`
LuminousIceNinja
Otaku Legend | Posted 07/31/08 | Reply
man, you really know how to sum this stuff up in an easy way. that's definitely a good thing, cuz your guides have helped my mom to lighten up about the anime and manga I read. so thank you, this is great
haseo luver92
Otaku Legend | Posted 07/31/08 | Reply
if there was ever a person to describe the way my parents like to handle manga, anime, and movies in general, it's you. while they may be a bit more strict on certain issues (nudity being one of them) they have lightened up and take in consideration my age and the type of book and so on and so forth.
which is good. there is nothing wrong with that. i can tell you a bad example of parenting when i recently went into a bookstore about two days ago. i was looking at manga when a boy about the age of max nine walked in. first he was looking at naruto and screaming over it like most anime novices, which is fine, but it was when he started to squeal over death note that i got a bit worried. now granted, i'm a huge death note fan, BUT i don't think it's a show that a nine year old should be watching and/or reading. why? because of his comment right afterwards of "o man, i really like this guy [he's pointing over at light] it would be really cool if i could just kill people by writing their names down in a book." see, this is why people were a bit scared of airing death note in america. why? because parents don't example things to their kids like they should. i was raised that murdering people is bad (unless in the name of the law, but that should be used only if nessesary), profanity shouldn't be used if possible, and you have to be able to distungish the difference between fiction and fact. and while that may seem like a form of common sense, it's not common sense at all. in fact, in my sixteen years of living, i've found that very few people actually have common sense, that nine year old boy being one of them. and while he's comment may have been made in jest, most of the time, what we say in jest is 90% of the time what we really mean.
so to sum it all up (sorry for the rant XP) i agree with your statements that parents should watch what their children are reading and watching, because that's how they grow up. simple as that.
haseo