Heya, I happened to pass by MyO today and found your post ^^ And first of all you need a hug! *hugglesquish* =3
Your situation sounds similar to what mine has been in the past. My father and I would get into meaningless fights for no apparent reason. It was really tough to go through as well because I was daddy's little girl, I used to have so much fun playing with him.
I'm not sure what your dad's like, but my dad has a really firm sounding voice and so sometimes it sounds like he's yelling when he doesn't mean to sound that way - I never knew that when I was younger, hence the fights. I just had to learn the difference between his voice when he was just talking and when he was actually yelling ^^;
I still don't understand him sometimes, but family relationships take a lot of tolerance, forgiveness and understanding. Just know that he does things because he cares for you. It's a father's job to care - so don't feel guilty and if you don't understand something, just ask him ^^
For myself, my own personal style has been a relatively easy thing for me. I'm not saying I have that mastered yet, but it's just that it just seems that way. I do have trouble though, namely with artist's block. Though I believe that as a person progresses in life, they find their creativity and originality (of course, you still have to practice xD). There are styles I haven't found to implement into my works either, but I'm sure they will come to us in due time *nods.*
I'm glad that you can see that your friends are here for you. I'm glad that you're such an open-minded person. All my life I've never met someone less narrow-minded than yourself. Sure, we all have our faults, but you are definitely a great person Sayura-chan. You don't have to place so much guilt on yourself, and you don't have to make yourself feel so bad. I live in a home where I cannot get my opinion voiced and yet I realize that I'm not alone. I think you're one of those individuals that are really more that one-sided. You make great choices, and they seem to be brought down by others, but don't give up. I believe in you, and I'm always here for you. We don't talk much, so I miss you a lot, but if there's ever any way that I could see you more often, I'd definitely take that route. And if you ever want to hear what I have to see on whether the bottle is half full or half empty, just ask ^^
I get into arguments with my family a lot, and it just seems that it won't stop. I can truly see their side of the story, but they can't see mine. I don't feel much guilt anymore for standing up for what I believe in, but it's still very hard. So I know the feeling, and I'm sure many others do. Sometimes I get in the most ridiculous arguments with my mother, and it pains me to see that some people just can't consider my point of view.
Now for me with physics, though I'm good at it, it is very hard. I've tried chemistry before too, and it isn't easy. So I understand what you mean. It's way too much. It is a privilege to learn, and I believe that knowing things really does get you far, but there are times when you need breaks from so much. You really do work hard, Sayura-chan. Harder than anyone I know. And you get really good grades because of it. I rarely ever study and I get good grades too. So I don't think that's fair. It isn't your fault that you were too tired to keep going. You need your rest, because you get yourself stressed too much.
I think the thing with family when it comes to school work is that they say you need to study more, when it's easier said than done. I wish you lived here, then I could visit you and see you whenever I wanted. But that's not the case. I wish you the best, and good luck. I love you.
Music Fairy (Otaku Eternal) | Posted 12/30/08 | Reply
Wow... I recognise a lot about myself here!
- I'm usually a person who thinks the bottle's half empty (or less...)
- I have little self-confidence and I find it extremely hard to be positive.
- I'm not sure whether I can trust my friends.
- I don't really know how to appreciate people, or how to let them know I do. (I'm not that good at expressing myself^^;)
- I trust all my Otaku friends, even though my parents don't.
- I often feel guilty about something I'm not even sure was my fault. And if it was my fault, I keep feeling guilty for weeks, months, or even years! Seriously... I guess I'm really hard on myself as well.
- I'm afraid of getting into arguments, I really hate them.
- My parents (especially my dad) keep nagging me about Maths. They keep telling me to work harder on it, and my dad always wants to teach me. There's been a period when I wanted to do it myself, I didn't wanna get higher marks because my dad helped me, I didn't wanna need his help, I felt I could be more proud of myself if I'd get sufficient marks by myself than if I'd get better marks with help. That probably sounded stupid-_-'
So anyway, just so you know, this comment wasn't meant to bore you, but to show you you're not the only one who has those kind of problems - I just hope it was of some comfort to you...:3
Take care Sayura-chan! *huggles*
~SG~
Last edited by SaxGirl at 8:39:54 AM EST on December 30, 2008.
Hello there Sayura-Chan! *hugs Oooh a rant/thought post! *cracks knuckles* Get ready for a long comment Sayura-Chan! XD I ♥ posts lie these^^ Hehe.
^_^ Hm, art doesn't have to have a style Sayura-Chan. That is why it is art^^ With art you can make something completely new or creative, it is all up to you! To be random, that is what defines art^^ ^_^ Don't ever worry about what style you have to have or want. Your art is beautiful just as it is so be happy about it and your art talent^^ *hugs* You can do any styles you want to! Believe in yourself! ^_^
Believe is a strong and meaningful word to everyone. But it is the one word that not one person in this world is able to perfect completely. We all have our doubts with our friends, family, God, and yes, even ourselves. And that is just being human Sayura. We aren't perfect but we try each and everyday to try harder. We have to learn to believe in ourselves no matter what. To believe is a choice and it is a choice we have to face each day. But to believe in others first, you must believe in yourself. Believe and be positive with yourself Sayura for you're a beautiful person. *hugs* I know you believe in your family, friends, and God as well, but of course right now in this stage of life you're having some doubts. And that is okay. Just take a day at a time, okay^^ But just like you said, you Always have us on here. We love you^^
Feelings are feelings. They change all the time. *shrugs* Like you said, it is life and we all have to face those bad feelings. But with the good feelings that we want to look for, we can overcome them. If you follow your heart, I believe you can feel happy. ^_^
Hmm...I see. It sounds like your Dad is a bit of an overachiever Sayura, am I right? Haha, men seem to be that way with their children. I don't think he is trying to put much stress on you, I think he just wants the best for you and your future. But what he doesn't understand is you are just a teenager and you do have a life besides studying. You're right, it is much TOO stressful to study that much and it is unfair.
*hugs* sayura, I am so sorry about this, I really am. But I will tell you this. YOU NEED TO TALK ABOUT YOUR FEELINGS. It is as simple as that. The reason you feel guilty, hard on yourself, and sad is because you do not talk to other about how you're feeling at the time or your thoughts. You speak up Sayura when your Dad says something like this! You BE honest with him! You're a human and you need to be more faithful to yourself! You're a lovely girl and you have to speak out! I know its hard and I know it is scary, trust me I know.
You have to be truthful to yourself sweetie, you have to and to others as well. Do let others misunderstand you or the way you feel. Don't be afraid of standing up for yourself, okay? ^_^ *hugs*
I know your Dad and family love you Sayura, they just want the best for you but they do have harsh ways of showing it at times^^; And I know you love them as well. It is just confusing sweetie and you're just a teenager, so it is all understandable. *hugs* But you stay strong and positive, okay^^
Goals of the week for you Sayura!
- Be more positive about the person you're. You're a smart, talented girl.
- Write a list of 20 positive things about yourself(and if you say you can't think of 20 things, I will smack you. XD)
- Start writing in a journal. You need to write down your feelings and how your day went.
- Start being more truthful to yourself and to others. Speak out more when you have an opinion^^ Remember you're very smart, so I know you have some good thoughts or ideas! XD
^_^ I expect you to do these Sayura. For me, okay? And you know, if you need to start talking to someone daily about your feelings, you can always talk to me. I know I'm not a professional, but I can help in some way^^ I am your friend. *hugs*
Take care sweetie and be happy, okay? ^_^ It is a BEAUTIFUL day. And do believe in yourself^^ *hugs* I love you very much and know that you don't have to have the answers to everything^^ ^_^ Kay? *hugs*
P.S. If you haven't watched the movie "The Cat Returns" a Studio Ghibli film already, try to watch it please^^
WHEN YOU WISH UPON A STAR, MAKES NO DIFFERENCE WHO YOU'RE! ANYTHING YOUR HEART DESIRES WILL COME TO YOU!! *hugs* XD
Misunderstandings are some of the most frustrating facts of life. They happen WAAAAAY too much in my family. I get the majority of the blame since I'm the oldest kid and I'm supposed to be so "mature". And I have a quick temper so I get into arguments a lot with my family. But only with them, and that's what makes it so frustrating. Like if they could see me at school, they'd realize I'm not so... I dunno... *sighs*
2-3 hours on Chemistry would drive me insane. It really is a long time. I don't think I'd be able to do it. Maybe ask your dad if you could breaks in that time?
I'm not very helpful, and I apologize for that. But I'm like you. I have little self confidence. I always think I'm wrong (or the majority of the time). And I always feel guilty even if I'm not involved. I'm working on trying to get over that. It's hard work. But little steps at a time we can get there together, Sayura-chan!
As for the style thing, I get really annoyed with mine. I used to have such a different style from what I have now. I guess I'm slowly sculpting something of my own... I just wish I could do better. *laughs* But Kamikaze Kaitou Jeanne was a really great series. I loved it. C: Arina Tanemura's a really great mangaka.
Gaaah, I really have to send you a PM tomorrow. *writes it down to remember*
playitbakinslomo
Replay~ (Otaku Eternal) | Posted 12/30/08 | Reply
Heya, I happened to pass by MyO today and found your post ^^ And first of all you need a hug! *hugglesquish* =3
Your situation sounds similar to what mine has been in the past. My father and I would get into meaningless fights for no apparent reason. It was really tough to go through as well because I was daddy's little girl, I used to have so much fun playing with him.
I'm not sure what your dad's like, but my dad has a really firm sounding voice and so sometimes it sounds like he's yelling when he doesn't mean to sound that way - I never knew that when I was younger, hence the fights. I just had to learn the difference between his voice when he was just talking and when he was actually yelling ^^;
I still don't understand him sometimes, but family relationships take a lot of tolerance, forgiveness and understanding. Just know that he does things because he cares for you. It's a father's job to care - so don't feel guilty and if you don't understand something, just ask him ^^
remember - thanks and sorry are magic words <3
hope I helped a little *hugs*
Suerte
Otakuite+ | Posted 12/30/08 | Reply
For myself, my own personal style has been a relatively easy thing for me. I'm not saying I have that mastered yet, but it's just that it just seems that way. I do have trouble though, namely with artist's block. Though I believe that as a person progresses in life, they find their creativity and originality (of course, you still have to practice xD). There are styles I haven't found to implement into my works either, but I'm sure they will come to us in due time *nods.*
I'm glad that you can see that your friends are here for you. I'm glad that you're such an open-minded person. All my life I've never met someone less narrow-minded than yourself. Sure, we all have our faults, but you are definitely a great person Sayura-chan. You don't have to place so much guilt on yourself, and you don't have to make yourself feel so bad. I live in a home where I cannot get my opinion voiced and yet I realize that I'm not alone. I think you're one of those individuals that are really more that one-sided. You make great choices, and they seem to be brought down by others, but don't give up. I believe in you, and I'm always here for you. We don't talk much, so I miss you a lot, but if there's ever any way that I could see you more often, I'd definitely take that route. And if you ever want to hear what I have to see on whether the bottle is half full or half empty, just ask ^^
I get into arguments with my family a lot, and it just seems that it won't stop. I can truly see their side of the story, but they can't see mine. I don't feel much guilt anymore for standing up for what I believe in, but it's still very hard. So I know the feeling, and I'm sure many others do. Sometimes I get in the most ridiculous arguments with my mother, and it pains me to see that some people just can't consider my point of view.
Now for me with physics, though I'm good at it, it is very hard. I've tried chemistry before too, and it isn't easy. So I understand what you mean. It's way too much. It is a privilege to learn, and I believe that knowing things really does get you far, but there are times when you need breaks from so much. You really do work hard, Sayura-chan. Harder than anyone I know. And you get really good grades because of it. I rarely ever study and I get good grades too. So I don't think that's fair. It isn't your fault that you were too tired to keep going. You need your rest, because you get yourself stressed too much.
I think the thing with family when it comes to school work is that they say you need to study more, when it's easier said than done. I wish you lived here, then I could visit you and see you whenever I wanted. But that's not the case. I wish you the best, and good luck. I love you.
~Sam-kun
SaxGirl
Music Fairy (Otaku Eternal) | Posted 12/30/08 | Reply
Wow... I recognise a lot about myself here!
- I'm usually a person who thinks the bottle's half empty (or less...)
- I have little self-confidence and I find it extremely hard to be positive.
- I'm not sure whether I can trust my friends.
- I don't really know how to appreciate people, or how to let them know I do. (I'm not that good at expressing myself^^;)
- I trust all my Otaku friends, even though my parents don't.
- I often feel guilty about something I'm not even sure was my fault. And if it was my fault, I keep feeling guilty for weeks, months, or even years! Seriously... I guess I'm really hard on myself as well.
- I'm afraid of getting into arguments, I really hate them.
- My parents (especially my dad) keep nagging me about Maths. They keep telling me to work harder on it, and my dad always wants to teach me. There's been a period when I wanted to do it myself, I didn't wanna get higher marks because my dad helped me, I didn't wanna need his help, I felt I could be more proud of myself if I'd get sufficient marks by myself than if I'd get better marks with help. That probably sounded stupid-_-'
So anyway, just so you know, this comment wasn't meant to bore you, but to show you you're not the only one who has those kind of problems - I just hope it was of some comfort to you...:3
Take care Sayura-chan! *huggles*
~SG~
Last edited by SaxGirl at 8:39:54 AM EST on December 30, 2008.
innocent heart
Otaku Eternal | Posted 12/30/08 | Reply
Hello there Sayura-Chan! *hugs Oooh a rant/thought post! *cracks knuckles* Get ready for a long comment Sayura-Chan! XD I ♥ posts lie these^^ Hehe.
^_^ Hm, art doesn't have to have a style Sayura-Chan. That is why it is art^^ With art you can make something completely new or creative, it is all up to you! To be random, that is what defines art^^ ^_^ Don't ever worry about what style you have to have or want. Your art is beautiful just as it is so be happy about it and your art talent^^ *hugs* You can do any styles you want to! Believe in yourself! ^_^
Believe is a strong and meaningful word to everyone. But it is the one word that not one person in this world is able to perfect completely. We all have our doubts with our friends, family, God, and yes, even ourselves. And that is just being human Sayura. We aren't perfect but we try each and everyday to try harder. We have to learn to believe in ourselves no matter what. To believe is a choice and it is a choice we have to face each day. But to believe in others first, you must believe in yourself. Believe and be positive with yourself Sayura for you're a beautiful person. *hugs* I know you believe in your family, friends, and God as well, but of course right now in this stage of life you're having some doubts. And that is okay. Just take a day at a time, okay^^ But just like you said, you Always have us on here. We love you^^
Feelings are feelings. They change all the time. *shrugs* Like you said, it is life and we all have to face those bad feelings. But with the good feelings that we want to look for, we can overcome them. If you follow your heart, I believe you can feel happy. ^_^
Hmm...I see. It sounds like your Dad is a bit of an overachiever Sayura, am I right? Haha, men seem to be that way with their children. I don't think he is trying to put much stress on you, I think he just wants the best for you and your future. But what he doesn't understand is you are just a teenager and you do have a life besides studying. You're right, it is much TOO stressful to study that much and it is unfair.
*hugs* sayura, I am so sorry about this, I really am. But I will tell you this. YOU NEED TO TALK ABOUT YOUR FEELINGS. It is as simple as that. The reason you feel guilty, hard on yourself, and sad is because you do not talk to other about how you're feeling at the time or your thoughts. You speak up Sayura when your Dad says something like this! You BE honest with him! You're a human and you need to be more faithful to yourself! You're a lovely girl and you have to speak out! I know its hard and I know it is scary, trust me I know.
You have to be truthful to yourself sweetie, you have to and to others as well. Do let others misunderstand you or the way you feel. Don't be afraid of standing up for yourself, okay? ^_^ *hugs*
I know your Dad and family love you Sayura, they just want the best for you but they do have harsh ways of showing it at times^^; And I know you love them as well. It is just confusing sweetie and you're just a teenager, so it is all understandable. *hugs* But you stay strong and positive, okay^^
Goals of the week for you Sayura!
- Be more positive about the person you're. You're a smart, talented girl.
- Write a list of 20 positive things about yourself(and if you say you can't think of 20 things, I will smack you. XD)
- Start writing in a journal. You need to write down your feelings and how your day went.
- Start being more truthful to yourself and to others. Speak out more when you have an opinion^^ Remember you're very smart, so I know you have some good thoughts or ideas! XD
^_^ I expect you to do these Sayura. For me, okay? And you know, if you need to start talking to someone daily about your feelings, you can always talk to me. I know I'm not a professional, but I can help in some way^^ I am your friend. *hugs*
Take care sweetie and be happy, okay? ^_^ It is a BEAUTIFUL day. And do believe in yourself^^ *hugs* I love you very much and know that you don't have to have the answers to everything^^ ^_^ Kay? *hugs*
P.S. If you haven't watched the movie "The Cat Returns" a Studio Ghibli film already, try to watch it please^^
WHEN YOU WISH UPON A STAR, MAKES NO DIFFERENCE WHO YOU'RE! ANYTHING YOUR HEART DESIRES WILL COME TO YOU!! *hugs* XD
mewmewpudding
Otaku Eternal | Posted 12/29/08 | Reply
Misunderstandings are some of the most frustrating facts of life. They happen WAAAAAY too much in my family. I get the majority of the blame since I'm the oldest kid and I'm supposed to be so "mature". And I have a quick temper so I get into arguments a lot with my family. But only with them, and that's what makes it so frustrating. Like if they could see me at school, they'd realize I'm not so... I dunno... *sighs*
2-3 hours on Chemistry would drive me insane. It really is a long time. I don't think I'd be able to do it. Maybe ask your dad if you could breaks in that time?
I'm not very helpful, and I apologize for that. But I'm like you. I have little self confidence. I always think I'm wrong (or the majority of the time). And I always feel guilty even if I'm not involved. I'm working on trying to get over that. It's hard work. But little steps at a time we can get there together, Sayura-chan!
As for the style thing, I get really annoyed with mine. I used to have such a different style from what I have now. I guess I'm slowly sculpting something of my own... I just wish I could do better. *laughs* But Kamikaze Kaitou Jeanne was a really great series. I loved it. C: Arina Tanemura's a really great mangaka.
Gaaah, I really have to send you a PM tomorrow. *writes it down to remember*