I find this to be completely normal from what I've seen/heard from other people, especially those who are starting to get into a really serious relationship.
Just because you might think higher of these other girls than you do yourself, doesn't mean he sees the qualities in them that you do. Just because you don't see a ton of likeable qualities in yourself, doesn't mean he doesn't. As far as that goes, he might be wondering "Why does she like me when she could like such and such far more attractive/funny guy?". Ya know?
I've talked to you for quite a while and I think you're an amazing, inspirational and completely honest person. I have a lot of admiration for you. I don't think you give yourself enough credit, in all honesty.
I really hope you get the courage to talk to him about this though, if you're feeling insecure or worried at all. Communication is key, I've learned this by watching others. Good luck!
Well, I think that you give yourself less credit than you deserve. Not that it's a bad or good thing, you're just modest.
But, before I say this, I will let you know that my advice is simply for your own interpretation, I don't intend for you to do this, this is purely for consideration since
A: I am somewhat a Jinx
B: Relationships aren't my thing
Ahem.
If you stand firmly on the grounds that you say that you think everyone else is better, or that you don't deserve him, etc. then you must ask him what it is that he sees in you. And even before that, you must observe your past with him and for yourself determine if he truly loves you or not since you are paranoid about it or don't think that you deserve him. And I'm sorry for saying that specifically, because you're not self-destructive (*Cough* Like me.). Back to my point;
I was saying that you must observe all of the times you've had and you must evaluate if he really loves you. If you believe it with a heavy heart, then go for freaking broke, my friend.
And of all things, communication is key, you must talk these things out instead of holding it in. If you hold it in, those stagnant and rotting emotions could cloud everything up and slowly rot your relationship with him.
And don't think of yourself as without special talents, attributes, etc. You're talented and beautiful in your own way whether you realize it or not. No person is without these blessings.
Morbid Dollie
Strawberry (Otaku Eternal) | Posted 09/08/12 | Reply
I find this to be completely normal from what I've seen/heard from other people, especially those who are starting to get into a really serious relationship.
Just because you might think higher of these other girls than you do yourself, doesn't mean he sees the qualities in them that you do. Just because you don't see a ton of likeable qualities in yourself, doesn't mean he doesn't. As far as that goes, he might be wondering "Why does she like me when she could like such and such far more attractive/funny guy?". Ya know?
I've talked to you for quite a while and I think you're an amazing, inspirational and completely honest person. I have a lot of admiration for you. I don't think you give yourself enough credit, in all honesty.
I really hope you get the courage to talk to him about this though, if you're feeling insecure or worried at all. Communication is key, I've learned this by watching others. Good luck!
-those with the biggest hearts hurt the most
DemonsandAngels
Beautiful Disaster (Otaku Eternal) | Posted 09/08/12 | Reply
@Kazamas-Keyblade:
Thanks. I'll keep that in mind.
Kazamas-Keyblade
Otaku Legend | Posted 09/08/12 | Reply
@DemonsandAngels:
No problem, my friend.
If you ever need to talk to someone, I'm a bottomless pit of caring and attention.
(But be careful, though...I am not as flexible as I used to be.)
DemonsandAngels
Beautiful Disaster (Otaku Eternal) | Posted 09/08/12 | Reply
@Kazamas-Keyblade:
Thanks. I appreciate the feedback.
I plan on talking about this with him at some point. I just have to figure out the timing of it all.
Kazamas-Keyblade
Otaku Legend | Posted 09/08/12 | Reply
Well, I think that you give yourself less credit than you deserve. Not that it's a bad or good thing, you're just modest.
But, before I say this, I will let you know that my advice is simply for your own interpretation, I don't intend for you to do this, this is purely for consideration since
A: I am somewhat a Jinx
B: Relationships aren't my thing
Ahem.
If you stand firmly on the grounds that you say that you think everyone else is better, or that you don't deserve him, etc. then you must ask him what it is that he sees in you. And even before that, you must observe your past with him and for yourself determine if he truly loves you or not since you are paranoid about it or don't think that you deserve him. And I'm sorry for saying that specifically, because you're not self-destructive (*Cough* Like me.). Back to my point;
I was saying that you must observe all of the times you've had and you must evaluate if he really loves you. If you believe it with a heavy heart, then go for freaking broke, my friend.
And of all things, communication is key, you must talk these things out instead of holding it in. If you hold it in, those stagnant and rotting emotions could cloud everything up and slowly rot your relationship with him.
And don't think of yourself as without special talents, attributes, etc. You're talented and beautiful in your own way whether you realize it or not. No person is without these blessings.