Happiness vs. perpetual anguish... with New Guy, your feelings are reciprocated, whereas with First Love, you're feeding everything you have into a potentially bottomless pit, and in the end, he'll be the same and you'll be drained away to nothing.
I just have to figure out how serious this new guy is. If he really does want to date me, I'm gonna have to talk to Joe. If this is just a fling that's gonna be forgotten about, I'm not gonna say anything.
With my ex, I know he still loves and cares about me. He tells me as much. I see him a couple times a week. We act like we're dating even though we aren't. That's where I stand with him right now.
If me and the new guy hit it off and he wants to date me, I'm gonna have to ask Joe what he wants. Does he want me to stay? Does he want me to go?
If he tells me he wants me to stay, I'm gonna be in hot water with my family and friends. He hasn't changed. Not one bit. But, I love him so much, I'll be happy to just be with him. But, I can't take my parents hating him. My friends will come around. My parents won't. Not unless he proves how much he likes me and how serious he is. Which, I doubt he'll ever do.
If he tells me to go, it's going to devastate the shit out of me. But, a part of me hopes he does so I can move on. If I don't have him texting me all the time and if I'm not hanging out with him all the time, my feelings for him will eventually change and I can focus on the new guy. But, it's gonna hurt all over again.
Both options seem very appealing.
Prince Hunny Bunny (Otaku Eternal) | Posted 07/30/13 | Reply
I've been in this boat before.
What happened with me, was that I was utterly in love with this guy. And he dumped me (he never loved me back and actually destroyed my entire life for a year.) but as I was trying to get over him, I date another guy who I somewhat liked.
What happened was, the newer guy never felt like I was committed to him because I was still in love with my ex. So he went and cheated on me. I was hurt but not devastated I guess.
So I guess what I would do, if I were in your shoes after having my expierience would be to give it time. Just be alone for a little while and really figure out what I truly want. To just maybe get to know the newer guy and maybe figure out where exactly you stand with your ex.
DemonsandAngels
Beautiful Disaster (Otaku Eternal) | Posted 07/30/13 | Reply
@elricbrothersfan:
I know it. I do. And it's so hard to make the right decision here.
DemonsandAngels
Beautiful Disaster (Otaku Eternal) | Posted 07/30/13 | Reply
@DuArMittAllt:
I do. But, I can't force love. It's very slow going to that stage at the moment.
elricbrothersfan
Otaku Legend | Posted 07/30/13 | Reply
Happiness vs. perpetual anguish... with New Guy, your feelings are reciprocated, whereas with First Love, you're feeding everything you have into a potentially bottomless pit, and in the end, he'll be the same and you'll be drained away to nothing.
DuArMittAllt
Otakuite++ | Posted 07/30/13 | Reply
Love like you've never been hurt. Corny, but the only way. Hugz (~^.^)~
cheriblosomchibi
Prince Hunny Bunny (Otaku Eternal) | Posted 07/30/13 | Reply
@DemonsandAngels:
Yeah that would definetely be a good idea.
DemonsandAngels
Beautiful Disaster (Otaku Eternal) | Posted 07/30/13 | Reply
@cheriblosomchibi:
I just have to figure out how serious this new guy is. If he really does want to date me, I'm gonna have to talk to Joe. If this is just a fling that's gonna be forgotten about, I'm not gonna say anything.
cheriblosomchibi
Prince Hunny Bunny (Otaku Eternal) | Posted 07/30/13 | Reply
@DemonsandAngels:
Yeah I could see how you'd be quite torn about that. Hm.
Well I'm glad that you're looking at the positives of both sides though.
DemonsandAngels
Beautiful Disaster (Otaku Eternal) | Posted 07/30/13 | Reply
@cheriblosomchibi:
With my ex, I know he still loves and cares about me. He tells me as much. I see him a couple times a week. We act like we're dating even though we aren't. That's where I stand with him right now.
If me and the new guy hit it off and he wants to date me, I'm gonna have to ask Joe what he wants. Does he want me to stay? Does he want me to go?
If he tells me he wants me to stay, I'm gonna be in hot water with my family and friends. He hasn't changed. Not one bit. But, I love him so much, I'll be happy to just be with him. But, I can't take my parents hating him. My friends will come around. My parents won't. Not unless he proves how much he likes me and how serious he is. Which, I doubt he'll ever do.
If he tells me to go, it's going to devastate the shit out of me. But, a part of me hopes he does so I can move on. If I don't have him texting me all the time and if I'm not hanging out with him all the time, my feelings for him will eventually change and I can focus on the new guy. But, it's gonna hurt all over again.
Both options seem very appealing.
cheriblosomchibi
Prince Hunny Bunny (Otaku Eternal) | Posted 07/30/13 | Reply
I've been in this boat before.
What happened with me, was that I was utterly in love with this guy. And he dumped me (he never loved me back and actually destroyed my entire life for a year.) but as I was trying to get over him, I date another guy who I somewhat liked.
What happened was, the newer guy never felt like I was committed to him because I was still in love with my ex. So he went and cheated on me. I was hurt but not devastated I guess.
So I guess what I would do, if I were in your shoes after having my expierience would be to give it time. Just be alone for a little while and really figure out what I truly want. To just maybe get to know the newer guy and maybe figure out where exactly you stand with your ex.