Exactly. At this rate, they'll think they can walk all over me. But my roommate hasn't talked to me since Wednesday when I told her what I'd pay. And I need her to tell me how much utilities were so I know what I owe. Or I'd like to talk about this, but she claims she's bad about talking about her feelings so she just avoids me. I call bullshit.
I don't think you're being unreasonable, it's them who are. I hate these kinds of sticky situations but you got to do something about this. If you leave it like this, your friend and her bf will be spoilt...You gotta let your voice known to both of them...
I'm pretty sure he's not even looking. Or if he is, he's doing it halfassed. He wants to live downtown/central Sioux Falls, and in my search for a new place have found several affordable places. So I know he's not looking.
I agree with you DA if there's three of you living there the rent and utilities should be split in thirds it's not right for you to have to pay for half the rent when her boyfriend is the one that's racking up the cost of everything. Like you said he doesn't have a car to pay for so he has the money to help pay for things and he should get his own food and not eat yours.
No I agree with DA. You are not being unreasonable because of a few things I see (if I remember correctly).
1) She didn't ask or mention anything about until surprise he is here! On top of that he is disrespectful towards you since he eats your food without asking or replenishing what he took.
2) When you moved in it was just the two of you and agreed to split the rent. It wasn't until later that she was never there after the verbal agreement was made. So it was her choice not use the apartment she was paying for.
3) With three people you are correct utilities will go up and you should not have to pay for that extra usage.
To me she it just seems like she wanted her boyfriend to move it so they could be together more often. I really don't see him moving out what it sounds like.
I have an option for you, besides beating him up, that might reduce the friction between you and your original roommate. This is just a rough thought since I do not know how your apartment rent breaks down.
Possible Rent Idea:
(with example numbers so I don't get confused. Not to insult you by it but just to see if my thought process makes sense to you.)
Total Cost of Apartment Rent without Utilities = $700
Divide by 1.75 and subtract from the $700. There are two parties (you and your roommate with "boyfriend") but divide by two and he gets away with no rent.
Your Rent = $300
Now figure out what the total cost for utilities would be and divide it by 3. Since there are now three people.
Utility Cost = $375
Your Share = $125
Your Total Cost = $425
Total Apartment Cost = $1075
Comes out to 39.5% of the rent you would be paying.
This way you are not paying for 50% but its higher then 33% which might make your original roommate happier.
Just a thought that might help and get good luck with the situation. Sorry for the long and boring reply. Have a good day if you can.
DemonsandAngels
Beautiful Disaster (Otaku Eternal) | Posted 05/02/14 | Reply
@Hifsa:
Exactly. At this rate, they'll think they can walk all over me. But my roommate hasn't talked to me since Wednesday when I told her what I'd pay. And I need her to tell me how much utilities were so I know what I owe. Or I'd like to talk about this, but she claims she's bad about talking about her feelings so she just avoids me. I call bullshit.
Hifsa
Otaku Legend | Posted 05/02/14 | Reply
I don't think you're being unreasonable, it's them who are. I hate these kinds of sticky situations but you got to do something about this. If you leave it like this, your friend and her bf will be spoilt...You gotta let your voice known to both of them...
DangerousTinkerer
Otaku Legend | Posted 05/01/14 | Reply
@DemonsandAngels:
Your welcome. 8-)
DemonsandAngels
Beautiful Disaster (Otaku Eternal) | Posted 05/01/14 | Reply
@Kazamas-Keyblade:
You're telling me!
Kazamas-Keyblade
Otaku Legend | Posted 05/01/14 | Reply
Damn, that's pretty hefty.
DemonsandAngels
Beautiful Disaster (Otaku Eternal) | Posted 05/01/14 | Reply
@DangerousTinkerer:
Thanks so much!!
DangerousTinkerer
Otaku Legend | Posted 05/01/14 | Reply
@DemonsandAngels:
Your welcome. Just an idea that I thought might help. Good luck and I have the same feeling about moving out as well. Good luck!
DemonsandAngels
Beautiful Disaster (Otaku Eternal) | Posted 05/01/14 | Reply
@clueless101:
The understatement of the year!
clueless101
Keyblade Master (Otaku Eternal) | Posted 05/01/14 | Reply
@DemonsandAngels:
That's frustrating.
If you want to be happy, be. ~Leo Tolstoy
DemonsandAngels
Beautiful Disaster (Otaku Eternal) | Posted 05/01/14 | Reply
@clueless101:
I'm pretty sure he's not even looking. Or if he is, he's doing it halfassed. He wants to live downtown/central Sioux Falls, and in my search for a new place have found several affordable places. So I know he's not looking.
clueless101
Keyblade Master (Otaku Eternal) | Posted 05/01/14 | Reply
@DemonsandAngels:
I don't blame you and it sounds like he's not exactly looking to move out any time soon.
If you want to be happy, be. ~Leo Tolstoy
DemonsandAngels
Beautiful Disaster (Otaku Eternal) | Posted 05/01/14 | Reply
@clueless101:
Thank you.
I cannot wait to move out... >.>
DemonsandAngels
Beautiful Disaster (Otaku Eternal) | Posted 05/01/14 | Reply
@DangerousTinkerer:
Thank you so much! That is a really good idea! I'll definitely keep that all in mind!
clueless101
Keyblade Master (Otaku Eternal) | Posted 05/01/14 | Reply
I agree with you DA if there's three of you living there the rent and utilities should be split in thirds it's not right for you to have to pay for half the rent when her boyfriend is the one that's racking up the cost of everything. Like you said he doesn't have a car to pay for so he has the money to help pay for things and he should get his own food and not eat yours.
If you want to be happy, be. ~Leo Tolstoy
DangerousTinkerer
Otaku Legend | Posted 05/01/14 | Reply
No I agree with DA. You are not being unreasonable because of a few things I see (if I remember correctly).
1) She didn't ask or mention anything about until surprise he is here! On top of that he is disrespectful towards you since he eats your food without asking or replenishing what he took.
2) When you moved in it was just the two of you and agreed to split the rent. It wasn't until later that she was never there after the verbal agreement was made. So it was her choice not use the apartment she was paying for.
3) With three people you are correct utilities will go up and you should not have to pay for that extra usage.
To me she it just seems like she wanted her boyfriend to move it so they could be together more often. I really don't see him moving out what it sounds like.
I have an option for you, besides beating him up, that might reduce the friction between you and your original roommate. This is just a rough thought since I do not know how your apartment rent breaks down.
Possible Rent Idea:
(with example numbers so I don't get confused. Not to insult you by it but just to see if my thought process makes sense to you.)
Total Cost of Apartment Rent without Utilities = $700
Divide by 1.75 and subtract from the $700. There are two parties (you and your roommate with "boyfriend") but divide by two and he gets away with no rent.
Your Rent = $300
Now figure out what the total cost for utilities would be and divide it by 3. Since there are now three people.
Utility Cost = $375
Your Share = $125
Your Total Cost = $425
Total Apartment Cost = $1075
Comes out to 39.5% of the rent you would be paying.
This way you are not paying for 50% but its higher then 33% which might make your original roommate happier.
Just a thought that might help and get good luck with the situation. Sorry for the long and boring reply. Have a good day if you can.