I'm so glad!!!
She is a good friend after all which makes me ever more happy!!!
Yeah, anime guys are the best! And I don't only have Zero you know!
I mean there is Mamoru, Usagi-san, Hiroki, Zero of course, Abel, Leon, Osar and Andre, Haruka... Ok, I better stop now, I am really turning into a freak...
I'm glad everything worked out just fine in the end!
Have a great week! *hug*
Yeah, I think some Asian guys are cute, just not all. And anime guys are the best! I see you like Zero, right? ^_^ He looks cute. I prefer Mikami Teru from Death Note (even though he doesn't have too much on-screen time and is kinda twisted XD) and a few others, but I'm not obsessed over any at the moment.
y the way, I talked to N. and we sorted things out. She wasn't upset when I told her and agreed to not letting us meet in private. I'm glad she understood me ^^ Guess it's thanks to you and Kelsey, I wouldn't have had the courage to tell her if you two hadn't cheered me up! *glomp*
Don't worry for the *dramatic moment*! I enjoyed it a lot!
[quote]But I can't stand it when I trust someone and they let me down somehow, especially close friends.[/quote]
I can trully understand that... I guess that's why I've ended up alone, in the first place! But I like it like that.
I'm just that kind of person that once dissapointed... well it's hard for me to really trust someone again.
But I'm sure it will all work out in the end...
About those Asian boys... It's ok, I don't really like them either. And of course you're not a racist! People have different tastes... That does not make you a racist!
I mean some are cute, but it's the same thing in Japan as in all other continents I think... Trust me ,only famous people are, sometimes, beautiful. At least that's what I've noticed!
There is only one Asian guy I like, sort of... The actor who plays Irie in the live-action version of Itazura na Kiss. I think he is good looking. But I'm not that crazy about him... Well in the episode I've accidentally downloaded he looked pretty cute and was very credible as Irie-kun!
I really don't like the Asian guys I see on TV because they all have weird haircuts, most of them... And they look so thin! I just hate thin men! They really freak me out... I feel like telling them: "Eat something, eat something!"
But still I have my anime guys! Those are the best!!!
Yeah, I would've liked to take picture too, but filming isn't my style. It's like trying to capture a beautiful movement on something mundane, such as a camera. It doesn't fit in my mind ._.
Yes, that's it! I hate it when I make plans -it doesn't happen too often, but when it does- and people modify them without telling me (and for the worst)! It makes me feel...unwanted ;_; Guess I sound a bit jealous, huh? ^_^" I'm not, it's just that this situation gets on my nerves and I don't want to lie to my friends. Of course, N. might be angry at me because she knows I'm good at lying and I used this "talent" on her.
*hi fives* Collabs are the stuff! XD Maybe we'll do another one sometime!
T_T *dramatic moment* I do miss you a lot when I hear nothing from you, I imagine you sad and I don't want you to be like that! *hugs*
Well, I wouldn't be silly enough to ask her to stop seeing S. completely, I have nothing against them seeing each other and since S. is in the same high school as us, that would be impossible. I just don't like her as a close friend, she's more of an acquaintance.
She may have to change her attitude, I agree, but I think it's too late for that. Plus, if N. likes her that way, I can't intervene between them.
And as for the "doing stuff together" thing, they talk mostly about boys, especially Asian ones. Now, I'm just not attracted to Asian boys - I'm not racist, I just don't like them as I do Caucasian types. When they go "Whee, that guy was so cute!!" I just stand there with a "..." expression on my face and don't know what to say.
As for the isolation thing, I don't mind being alone, I'm used to it. But I can't stand it when I trust someone and they let me down somehow, especially close friends. Now that I think about it, N. should have figured out that I'm not too comfortable around S. If she hasn't, maybe it's a sign...
And how could I be upset, I'm never upset at people for telling the truth and giving good advice That's what good friends do, right? And I'm glad you and your best friend have such a wonderful relationship, I hope it continues to be like that! ^__^
Thank you so much for the support T_T It's unpleasant to feel like you're the extra person... I'll try to talk to her, hopefully she won't freak out. *hugs* And thank you for the comment on my art! ^_^
Thank you for your reply! After finishing the comment last night, I felt a little worried... Keep asking myself: "Why did I even post that comment? I kind of crossed the line..."
Trust me, I'm not a saint... and I try not to give advices... There's one thing I've learned in this life: no matter how educated and no matter how good your intentions are, people always take it the wrong way! But I'm glad you didn't! *hug*
I also hate people with that kind atitude! And also people with the "I know it all!" atitude!
I hope you don't mind, but I checked everybody else's comments! Just had to!
I really don't agree with them... I mean of course it is hard, I felt left out all my life! So I can really relate to that... Like I said, I wish I had a friend to invite me over! But still I think you should try to be friends with her too... I think you just have to find something that all of you enjoy doing. There has to be something!
I'm trying to put myself in N. shoes now... I would feel kind of weird if one friend asks me to ask my other friend to stay away...
By the way S. needs to change her atitude! But it doesn't surprise me... Kids her age are so selfish sometimes... Well, it's her loss anyway, she has lost a great friend like you! If I was her, I would really regret it!
Anyway, if you do talk to N. after all make sure to be polite and sincere. I really don't agree on this "isolation" thing everybody suggests. But I guess it's just hard for me to accept that sometimes people don't really get along...
Well I should really be posting this... It reminds me how much I miss my best friend!
I'm so glad you weren't upset! And you've missed me?
Ok, I'll stop with the sentimental stuff, but I do feel glad you've missed me!
I'm not upset at you, you're right in everything you said. I suppose our friendship is indeed an intellectual one, though we get along well emotionally as well. Truth is, I can't stand S. because she has that "I'm better than everyone" attitude and seems distant, like she doesn't want to get involved too much in discussions.
Besides, a few hours of trying to think up of something to say isn't too pleasant, especially because we have few things in common. N. doesn't realize she's the "link" between the two of us, she acts like we're best friends and insists that S. come along with us whenever she (N.) wants.
I'll try to talk to her, thank you for the advice. Just gotta build up some courage now XD *hugs* Thank you for commenting, I really missed you! *hugs*
That's so cool you got to take a walk in the park like that. I haven't been in a park in a while...and I've never seen swans in person before! That's awesome!! How pretty~~ A black one? Wow. Well, I'd probably want to take pictures, too, but I usually don't have a camera on me. We never take videos either. They shouldn't have been bothering the birdies like that though! How rude.
I love your artwork~~ You're so awesome! I already commented on that and your vector before. :D Sooooo great!! So cute! *hugs*
As for the friends thing, I can totally relate! It IS depressing to have plans to be with one friend, but then they invite other people. Who cares if you know them and are friends? It doesn't matter...the point is that they intruded on what was planned, and whenever a friend of a friend joins in to make 3...well, that obviously means a third wheel is designated! And unfortunately, that usually means the other friend. :( I've been in that situation so many times...and it's not fair. *hugs* I'm sorry you had to put up with that...you guys were going to have fun together, but then you had to end up as the third wheel! Of course you'd feel down. *hugs* Poor thing.
She sounds pretty annoying, too. :/ I know...it'd be hard to tell Nico about how you feel, too, because she might take offense...but if she's your friend, then she really shouldn't. Maybe you could try telling her that you felt uncomfortable and left out? I've done that with friends before...they listened and understood, but in the end it didn't matter. ^^; I just didn't hang out with more people after that! You and I are very similar! I'm glad we're friends. *hugs* And I'm glad we made that collab. ;D Which is finished and submitted on AP now...I sent you an email with the jpeg files for you to submit wherever, too! Wherever you want~~~
I was about to hug my laptop because of your post!!!
Sorry about that, but really this is a side of you I really haven't had the chance to see yet, dough I knew deep down your are sensible or at least that's what I think... If you wish to kill me, may I defend myself by saying that I am an idealist so I always imagine that people are like me... you know: daydreaming a lot, always being fair regarding others, always focusing on positive thoughts etc.
Hmmm... Difficult situation indeed!
Honestly I never had to face such a situation, lets say only 40% even dough it sounds weird...
My best friend also has friends of her own, but I was cool with that because I always knew the things we'd share... She told me things she'd rarely tell other people... but of course I was feeling strange when she talked about people or things I haven't done or seen, but we had another type of connection. More based on mutual affection and understanding. Now we are apart, because I'm in studying in Bucharest and she's still near our hometown, I do miss her dough. Sorry about this random rambling...
I'm trying to put myself in your shoes... Just from reading this I got the impression that your friendship is based on intelectual understanding... If I got the wrong impression, then allow me to apologize! It's not wrong, I wish I had a friend like you... I mean to come over and watch movies or go to parks, discuss about books and stuff we are both so much fond of etc.
My best friend wasn't really into anime or books and stuff...
There is one thing I'm asking myself: "What kind of friendship is this if you can't really sit down and talk?" Just an open talk...
I'm taking this too seriously, sorry!
But if I were you I would talk to her and tell her everything in a way that wouldn't hurt her or in a way that wouldn't give her the impression that I am insulting S.!
But that's just me...
Hey, human relationships aren't perfect! If she is a true friend she will understand, but also SweetD try to be more tolerant!
It wouldn't hurt! Not all of us are so... How should I say... Aware of everything despite our young age like you! Remember tolerance for one another is a quality few people have! And frienship is about appreciating each other's differences!
Sometimes people are slow and they do get on your nerves a lot ( making fun of guys on the Internet is kind of childish, but I must confess I've done it too... It's just a guilty pleasure!), but I promise you they do wake up! By the time they get to college most of them grow up...
I'm sure it will all work out in the end!
This got too long... Sorry about that! If you just read this last few sentences I won't mind!
Have a great week and by the way I can't wait to see that project you are about to finish along with AngelZakuro! I'm so curious!
icebox270534
Otaku Eternal | Posted 07/29/08 | Reply
@sweetdevil:
I'm so glad!!!
She is a good friend after all which makes me ever more happy!!!
Yeah, anime guys are the best! And I don't only have Zero you know!
I mean there is Mamoru, Usagi-san, Hiroki, Zero of course, Abel, Leon, Osar and Andre, Haruka... Ok, I better stop now, I am really turning into a freak...
I'm glad everything worked out just fine in the end!
Have a great week! *hug*
sweetdevil
Embracing Insanity (Otaku Eternal) | Posted 07/29/08 | Reply
@icebox270534:
Yeah, I think some Asian guys are cute, just not all. And anime guys are the best! I see you like Zero, right? ^_^ He looks cute. I prefer Mikami Teru from Death Note (even though he doesn't have too much on-screen time and is kinda twisted XD) and a few others, but I'm not obsessed over any at the moment.
y the way, I talked to N. and we sorted things out. She wasn't upset when I told her and agreed to not letting us meet in private. I'm glad she understood me ^^ Guess it's thanks to you and Kelsey, I wouldn't have had the courage to tell her if you two hadn't cheered me up! *glomp*
icebox270534
Otaku Eternal | Posted 07/29/08 | Reply
@sweetdevil:
Don't worry for the *dramatic moment*! I enjoyed it a lot!
[quote]But I can't stand it when I trust someone and they let me down somehow, especially close friends.[/quote]
I can trully understand that... I guess that's why I've ended up alone, in the first place! But I like it like that.
I'm just that kind of person that once dissapointed... well it's hard for me to really trust someone again.
But I'm sure it will all work out in the end...
About those Asian boys... It's ok, I don't really like them either. And of course you're not a racist! People have different tastes... That does not make you a racist!
I mean some are cute, but it's the same thing in Japan as in all other continents I think... Trust me ,only famous people are, sometimes, beautiful. At least that's what I've noticed!
There is only one Asian guy I like, sort of... The actor who plays Irie in the live-action version of Itazura na Kiss. I think he is good looking. But I'm not that crazy about him... Well in the episode I've accidentally downloaded he looked pretty cute and was very credible as Irie-kun!
I really don't like the Asian guys I see on TV because they all have weird haircuts, most of them... And they look so thin! I just hate thin men! They really freak me out... I feel like telling them: "Eat something, eat something!"
But still I have my anime guys! Those are the best!!!
sweetdevil
Embracing Insanity (Otaku Eternal) | Posted 07/29/08 | Reply
@Angel Zakuro:
Yeah, I would've liked to take picture too, but filming isn't my style. It's like trying to capture a beautiful movement on something mundane, such as a camera. It doesn't fit in my mind ._.
Yes, that's it! I hate it when I make plans -it doesn't happen too often, but when it does- and people modify them without telling me (and for the worst)! It makes me feel...unwanted ;_; Guess I sound a bit jealous, huh? ^_^" I'm not, it's just that this situation gets on my nerves and I don't want to lie to my friends. Of course, N. might be angry at me because she knows I'm good at lying and I used this "talent" on her.
*hi fives* Collabs are the stuff! XD Maybe we'll do another one sometime!
sweetdevil
Embracing Insanity (Otaku Eternal) | Posted 07/29/08 | Reply
@icebox270534:
T_T *dramatic moment* I do miss you a lot when I hear nothing from you, I imagine you sad and I don't want you to be like that! *hugs*
Well, I wouldn't be silly enough to ask her to stop seeing S. completely, I have nothing against them seeing each other and since S. is in the same high school as us, that would be impossible. I just don't like her as a close friend, she's more of an acquaintance.
She may have to change her attitude, I agree, but I think it's too late for that. Plus, if N. likes her that way, I can't intervene between them.
And as for the "doing stuff together" thing, they talk mostly about boys, especially Asian ones. Now, I'm just not attracted to Asian boys - I'm not racist, I just don't like them as I do Caucasian types. When they go "Whee, that guy was so cute!!" I just stand there with a "..." expression on my face and don't know what to say.
As for the isolation thing, I don't mind being alone, I'm used to it. But I can't stand it when I trust someone and they let me down somehow, especially close friends. Now that I think about it, N. should have figured out that I'm not too comfortable around S. If she hasn't, maybe it's a sign...
And how could I be upset, I'm never upset at people for telling the truth and giving good advice
That's what good friends do, right? And I'm glad you and your best friend have such a wonderful relationship, I hope it continues to be like that! ^__^
sweetdevil
Embracing Insanity (Otaku Eternal) | Posted 07/29/08 | Reply
@:
Thank you so much for the support T_T It's unpleasant to feel like you're the extra person... I'll try to talk to her, hopefully she won't freak out. *hugs* And thank you for the comment on my art! ^_^
icebox270534
Otaku Eternal | Posted 07/29/08 | Reply
@sweetdevil:
Thank you for your reply! After finishing the comment last night, I felt a little worried... Keep asking myself: "Why did I even post that comment? I kind of crossed the line..."
Trust me, I'm not a saint... and I try not to give advices... There's one thing I've learned in this life: no matter how educated and no matter how good your intentions are, people always take it the wrong way! But I'm glad you didn't! *hug*
I also hate people with that kind atitude! And also people with the "I know it all!" atitude!
I hope you don't mind, but I checked everybody else's comments! Just had to!
I really don't agree with them... I mean of course it is hard, I felt left out all my life! So I can really relate to that... Like I said, I wish I had a friend to invite me over! But still I think you should try to be friends with her too... I think you just have to find something that all of you enjoy doing. There has to be something!
I'm trying to put myself in N. shoes now... I would feel kind of weird if one friend asks me to ask my other friend to stay away...
By the way S. needs to change her atitude! But it doesn't surprise me... Kids her age are so selfish sometimes... Well, it's her loss anyway, she has lost a great friend like you! If I was her, I would really regret it!
Anyway, if you do talk to N. after all make sure to be polite and sincere. I really don't agree on this "isolation" thing everybody suggests. But I guess it's just hard for me to accept that sometimes people don't really get along...
Well I should really be posting this... It reminds me how much I miss my best friend!
I'm so glad you weren't upset! And you've missed me?
Ok, I'll stop with the sentimental stuff, but I do feel glad you've missed me!
Good luck!!! *giant hug*
sweetdevil
Embracing Insanity (Otaku Eternal) | Posted 07/29/08 | Reply
@icebox270534:
I'm not upset at you, you're right in everything you said. I suppose our friendship is indeed an intellectual one, though we get along well emotionally as well. Truth is, I can't stand S. because she has that "I'm better than everyone" attitude and seems distant, like she doesn't want to get involved too much in discussions.
Besides, a few hours of trying to think up of something to say isn't too pleasant, especially because we have few things in common. N. doesn't realize she's the "link" between the two of us, she acts like we're best friends and insists that S. come along with us whenever she (N.) wants.
I'll try to talk to her, thank you for the advice. Just gotta build up some courage now XD *hugs* Thank you for commenting, I really missed you! *hugs*
Angel Zakuro
bird nerd. (Otaku Angel) | Posted 07/28/08 | Reply
That's so cool you got to take a walk in the park like that. I haven't been in a park in a while...and I've never seen swans in person before! That's awesome!! How pretty~~ A black one? Wow. Well, I'd probably want to take pictures, too, but I usually don't have a camera on me. We never take videos either. They shouldn't have been bothering the birdies like that though! How rude.
I love your artwork~~ You're so awesome! I already commented on that and your vector before. :D Sooooo great!! So cute! *hugs*
As for the friends thing, I can totally relate! It IS depressing to have plans to be with one friend, but then they invite other people. Who cares if you know them and are friends? It doesn't matter...the point is that they intruded on what was planned, and whenever a friend of a friend joins in to make 3...well, that obviously means a third wheel is designated! And unfortunately, that usually means the other friend. :( I've been in that situation so many times...and it's not fair. *hugs* I'm sorry you had to put up with that...you guys were going to have fun together, but then you had to end up as the third wheel! Of course you'd feel down. *hugs* Poor thing.
She sounds pretty annoying, too. :/ I know...it'd be hard to tell Nico about how you feel, too, because she might take offense...but if she's your friend, then she really shouldn't. Maybe you could try telling her that you felt uncomfortable and left out? I've done that with friends before...they listened and understood, but in the end it didn't matter. ^^; I just didn't hang out with more people after that! You and I are very similar! I'm glad we're friends. *hugs* And I'm glad we made that collab. ;D Which is finished and submitted on AP now...I sent you an email with the jpeg files for you to submit wherever, too! Wherever you want~~~
Take care! I hope things can get better. :3
icebox270534
Otaku Eternal | Posted 07/28/08 | Reply
I was about to hug my laptop because of your post!!!
Sorry about that, but really this is a side of you I really haven't had the chance to see yet, dough I knew deep down your are sensible or at least that's what I think... If you wish to kill me, may I defend myself by saying that I am an idealist so I always imagine that people are like me... you know: daydreaming a lot, always being fair regarding others, always focusing on positive thoughts etc.
Hmmm... Difficult situation indeed!
Honestly I never had to face such a situation, lets say only 40% even dough it sounds weird...
My best friend also has friends of her own, but I was cool with that because I always knew the things we'd share... She told me things she'd rarely tell other people... but of course I was feeling strange when she talked about people or things I haven't done or seen, but we had another type of connection. More based on mutual affection and understanding. Now we are apart, because I'm in studying in Bucharest and she's still near our hometown, I do miss her dough. Sorry about this random rambling...
I'm trying to put myself in your shoes... Just from reading this I got the impression that your friendship is based on intelectual understanding... If I got the wrong impression, then allow me to apologize! It's not wrong, I wish I had a friend like you... I mean to come over and watch movies or go to parks, discuss about books and stuff we are both so much fond of etc.
My best friend wasn't really into anime or books and stuff...
There is one thing I'm asking myself: "What kind of friendship is this if you can't really sit down and talk?" Just an open talk...
I'm taking this too seriously, sorry!
But if I were you I would talk to her and tell her everything in a way that wouldn't hurt her or in a way that wouldn't give her the impression that I am insulting S.!
But that's just me...
Hey, human relationships aren't perfect! If she is a true friend she will understand, but also SweetD try to be more tolerant!
It wouldn't hurt! Not all of us are so... How should I say... Aware of everything despite our young age like you! Remember tolerance for one another is a quality few people have! And frienship is about appreciating each other's differences!
Sometimes people are slow and they do get on your nerves a lot ( making fun of guys on the Internet is kind of childish, but I must confess I've done it too... It's just a guilty pleasure!), but I promise you they do wake up! By the time they get to college most of them grow up...
I'm sure it will all work out in the end!
This got too long... Sorry about that! If you just read this last few sentences I won't mind!
Have a great week and by the way I can't wait to see that project you are about to finish along with AngelZakuro! I'm so curious!
*tsunami of hugs*
Peace and luff,
Lory.