The Gluttony Fang (Otaku Eternal) | Posted 08/15/10 | Reply
The clothes, music and hand holding things were rather minor to tell the truth. As for the other things, from what you've told me about him, he's something of the scientist type. Meaning he finds it easier to express opinions than emotions. So, given what you've previously told me and the duration of your relationship, he's either 1: In a bad mood/upset about something. or 2: Thinks the spark is fading in your relationship. Both are fairly easy to fix. Try talking to him, see if something is bothering him. If it's 2, just do some new and exciting things with him. Ya'know, things that will bring you closer together and reignite those sparks.
Alternatively, he could just be relatively anti-social and undergoing some form of social regression. But that usually only applies to people who have suffered some form of emotional trauma in the past and is usually triggered by an anniversary of the event or a flashback.
You might want to try talking to him. At the end of the day, he's a guy. Hell, you're a guy. You should know that we guys aren't the best at connecting the dots when it comes to feelings. He won't know how you feel unless you tell him, same as you won't know how he feels unless he tells you.
If you wanna chat on Y!M then leave me a reply giving me the time. I'm avoiding it for the next two weeks so I wont be on unless asked to appear.
So at first I thought you were kind of overreacting. I have days when I don't really want to hold hands (actually a lot of days haha) and of course people have different tastes in music. My boyfriend hates a lot of the music I listen to and I tolerate his;; Every once in a while I'll burn him a CD in hopes that we can listen to some of the music I like in the car but that never happens except for one or two songs 8D;; About clothing, it's hard to say. The first thing about not looking good in lace could be a valid opinion. Maybe he's just the type of guy who knows what he doesn't like but doesn't really know what he likes?
But anyway after I kept reading further it seemed kinda strange to me ; What he said about your grandmother's cooking was flat out rude, and it seems to me he has trouble finding positive things about a lot of things. Has it just been happening recently? Maybe something is bothering him and he is taking it out on you (I know I do that a lot to my boyfriend DX) Try talking to him and asking if anything is wrong, then bring up your concerns about his attitude. Regarding spending time together, I feel kind of the same way about my boyfriend. =A=; But if that's the case then you have to make an extra effort to try and get him to do stuff you like. I don't know what but it could be something simple like buying tickets for a movie or asking him to go to a date somewhere. If money is the problem, maybe just go on a walk and have a good talk or something. o3o; My boyfriend and I recently have been playing pool a lot, so if there's a cheap place to do that that's pretty fun too.
Tell him to be more positive or LEAVE! D<
it sounds like he has a bad case the glass-half-empty syndrome...
as for the whole holding hands thing, maybe he just wasn't in the mood for it that day. happens to everyone...
I think that you should talk to him about how you're feeling. He might get mad, but it'd be better to tell him these things than keep going around miserable.
I'm sorry about him not wanting to meet your family because they sound great (kind of like mine haha) and cheer up, k? Things will work out(:
Hmm maybe you should talk..
I also disagree with the clothes part, like u should wear what you feel good in.. but its okay to change here n there for him...
Also i do think that you overreact with the music thing...tastes are different n i agree when he doesnt liee something to tell so.. also you shouldnt listen to something if you dont liek either.
Idk why he avoids your family they sound nice...but i do think he should put a bit more effort for you..since u try to be good with his family.,,, also once a month isnt that horrible..
But I sure think that you should tell him that instead of postineg... only my opinion tho :p
Awww D: *huggles* i don't know much on relationship and this sound wrong but I would say that your b/f should respect and appreciate you more as a lover. :/ I agree he should support you, both of you are in relationship equal partnership and your b/f not doing his part as your lover. Sorry me sound mean. ;.; But if someone upset a friend we care and love like a family, well that a secret with theO mafia family to handle. (all friends) X3 But Hope things get better if not, tell your sis-Mira to knock some sense out of him. ;)
you know what, this dude sounds like an asshole, and a really big one at that. You really shouldn't have to put up with that crap. I know how you feel in some way because my ex bf(at the coming to the end of our relationship) slowly started to avoid me, and not talk to me at all. It hurt and sucked alot but what can i say, it only lasted a month and a little bit more than a half. you can try healing your relationship but i really think you can get better than this.
Last edited by AnimeGal816 at 1:56:28 AM CDT on August 15, 2010.
Prince Hunny Bunny (Otaku Eternal) | Posted 08/15/10 | Reply
I know we don't know eachother all that well, but it's still upsettingto hear that you're upset. And, well, I fail at relationship advice, but I just wanna say that I know how you feel, and that things will, hopefully, get better. That's probably not exactly believable at the moment, but you never know.
And if you ever wanna talk, I'm here. ^^
Oh, and I dunno if you remember, but we had an Art Trade going on a while back, and I just finished my half, so I'll prolly be posting it soon. ^^
Anyway, Hope you're happy and things look up for you soon
Mr Sword
The Gluttony Fang (Otaku Eternal) | Posted 08/15/10 | Reply
The clothes, music and hand holding things were rather minor to tell the truth. As for the other things, from what you've told me about him, he's something of the scientist type. Meaning he finds it easier to express opinions than emotions. So, given what you've previously told me and the duration of your relationship, he's either 1: In a bad mood/upset about something. or 2: Thinks the spark is fading in your relationship. Both are fairly easy to fix. Try talking to him, see if something is bothering him. If it's 2, just do some new and exciting things with him. Ya'know, things that will bring you closer together and reignite those sparks.
Alternatively, he could just be relatively anti-social and undergoing some form of social regression. But that usually only applies to people who have suffered some form of emotional trauma in the past and is usually triggered by an anniversary of the event or a flashback.
You might want to try talking to him. At the end of the day, he's a guy. Hell, you're a guy. You should know that we guys aren't the best at connecting the dots when it comes to feelings. He won't know how you feel unless you tell him, same as you won't know how he feels unless he tells you.
If you wanna chat on Y!M then leave me a reply giving me the time. I'm avoiding it for the next two weeks so I wont be on unless asked to appear.
Yoji~
pomegranate
Otaku Eternal | Posted 08/15/10 | Reply
So at first I thought you were kind of overreacting. I have days when I don't really want to hold hands (actually a lot of days haha) and of course people have different tastes in music. My boyfriend hates a lot of the music I listen to and I tolerate his;; Every once in a while I'll burn him a CD in hopes that we can listen to some of the music I like in the car but that never happens except for one or two songs 8D;; About clothing, it's hard to say. The first thing about not looking good in lace could be a valid opinion. Maybe he's just the type of guy who knows what he doesn't like but doesn't really know what he likes?
But anyway after I kept reading further it seemed kinda strange to me ; What he said about your grandmother's cooking was flat out rude, and it seems to me he has trouble finding positive things about a lot of things. Has it just been happening recently? Maybe something is bothering him and he is taking it out on you (I know I do that a lot to my boyfriend DX) Try talking to him and asking if anything is wrong, then bring up your concerns about his attitude. Regarding spending time together, I feel kind of the same way about my boyfriend. =A=; But if that's the case then you have to make an extra effort to try and get him to do stuff you like. I don't know what but it could be something simple like buying tickets for a movie or asking him to go to a date somewhere. If money is the problem, maybe just go on a walk and have a good talk or something. o3o; My boyfriend and I recently have been playing pool a lot, so if there's a cheap place to do that that's pretty fun too.
Good luck >.<;;
KYOKUNROX584
Senior Otaku+ | Posted 08/15/10 | Reply
Tell him to be more positive or LEAVE! D<
it sounds like he has a bad case the glass-half-empty syndrome...
as for the whole holding hands thing, maybe he just wasn't in the mood for it that day. happens to everyone...
angelsu
Eternal Angel (Otaku Eternal) | Posted 08/15/10 | Reply
I think that you should talk to him about how you're feeling. He might get mad, but it'd be better to tell him these things than keep going around miserable.
I'm sorry about him not wanting to meet your family because they sound great (kind of like mine haha) and cheer up, k? Things will work out(:
sasusaku 4ever
Guru's Chosen | Posted 08/15/10 | Reply
Hmm maybe you should talk..
I also disagree with the clothes part, like u should wear what you feel good in.. but its okay to change here n there for him...
Also i do think that you overreact with the music thing...tastes are different n i agree when he doesnt liee something to tell so.. also you shouldnt listen to something if you dont liek either.
Idk why he avoids your family they sound nice...but i do think he should put a bit more effort for you..since u try to be good with his family.,,, also once a month isnt that horrible..
But I sure think that you should tell him that instead of postineg... only my opinion tho :p
~Sasu~~
Miracle Star19
Otaku Eternal | Posted 08/15/10 | Reply
Awww D: *huggles* i don't know much on relationship and this sound wrong but I would say that your b/f should respect and appreciate you more as a lover. :/ I agree he should support you, both of you are in relationship equal partnership and your b/f not doing his part as your lover. Sorry me sound mean. ;.; But if someone upset a friend we care and love like a family, well that a secret with theO mafia family to handle. (all friends) X3 But Hope things get better if not, tell your sis-Mira to knock some sense out of him. ;)
Mira-chan
AnimeGal816
Dovahkiin (Otaku Eternal) | Posted 08/15/10 | Reply
you know what, this dude sounds like an asshole, and a really big one at that. You really shouldn't have to put up with that crap. I know how you feel in some way because my ex bf(at the coming to the end of our relationship) slowly started to avoid me, and not talk to me at all. It hurt and sucked alot but what can i say, it only lasted a month and a little bit more than a half. you can try healing your relationship but i really think you can get better than this.
Last edited by AnimeGal816 at 1:56:28 AM CDT on August 15, 2010.
cheriblosomchibi
Prince Hunny Bunny (Otaku Eternal) | Posted 08/15/10 | Reply
I know we don't know eachother all that well, but it's still upsettingto hear that you're upset. And, well, I fail at relationship advice, but I just wanna say that I know how you feel, and that things will, hopefully, get better. That's probably not exactly believable at the moment, but you never know.
And if you ever wanna talk, I'm here. ^^
Oh, and I dunno if you remember, but we had an Art Trade going on a while back, and I just finished my half, so I'll prolly be posting it soon. ^^
Anyway, Hope you're happy and things look up for you soon